I have been wondering, and wanting to be married since I was a little girl. I went through a terrible relationship and had two beautiful children with a man who I never legally married. four years after we split, I find myself engaged to a man who also has children. We have dated for a Year and are somewhat compatible and communicate well and rarely fight. my kids love him and I his kids. but I feel the urge to stay single and keep dating, even though he gives all the attention and affection I need. I feel wrong, and yet at the same time I am itching to get married, and cant wait to go get the dress. we get along, and everyone is so attatched. is 24 just too young to be married? is it cold feet? is he "not the one"?
2006-06-09 15:27:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you're in love with the idea of getting married, but are you in love with him? marriage isn't about the dress and the wedding. that lasts for one day, marriage and commitment is supposed to last for the rest of your life. if you think you're settling, then you are, and that is no attitude to take into a life long commitment. later on you'll regret it or resent him for it. really think about what you are doing, and if necessary get some relationship councelling. the guy who answered first is right. you deserve more than just settling.
2006-06-09 15:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by marcilee1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the urge to keep dating the he is 'not the one' sorry... now, I disagree with a lot of reasons Americans get married, and I would advise you to marry this man for the sake of your kids... so many people marry for what they think is love but they have no idea what love is... that's why America has a 53% divorce rate for first marriages... If you were in a different country everyone would encourage you to marry this man because you can live a comfortable and stable life with him... but I think most people on here will tell you to move on... 24 is a good age to get married, maybe a bit young, but then 30 gets to be too old...
2006-06-09 22:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by tripforyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope and pray that the spirit of what i am trying to say gets to you. First if the thought of NOT marrying him makes your stomach ache and you CAN'T go a day without thinking about him then maybe you should marry him. If you just have a itching to be married and need a dress then it sounds like the only missing variable is you are not in love. Don't settle for mr. right now. I am just beginning divorce proceedings with my wife of thirteen years with two boys 11 and 1.5 years old and I still dont know why we are getting a divorce.No marriage is gonna be perfect so prepare for reality to be shocking on occasion. good luck in your decision and I truly wish you the best
2006-06-09 22:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If 24 is not too young to be a mother of two, I can see why it would be to get married!
My question is why are you getting married? Is it just for the dress or because you love the guy and feel that your kids will have a good life with him.
2006-06-09 22:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by fabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to get married and commit to this guy then dont do it! Go with your gut instinct and slow things way down and you may want to date others for a while as well and maybe even break off the engagement! Do not marry just because you have an itch dont get married until you are sure they are the right one for you!
2006-06-09 22:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twenty four isn't too young to be married. You might just be afraid that he isn't the one and you could find someone better. You could probably always find someone better - the thing is do you love him? If you love him and you can see yourself being happy with him for the rest of your life then go for it! The fact that you both get along and you both love eachother's kids is a great thing - and sounds like you both have a good foundation for your relationship.
If you love eachother, get engaged and set a date.
2006-06-09 22:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never settle for anything less than what you really deserve. You are a better person than that. 24 is not to young to be married but it has to be to the right person. Marriage is forever. Do you want to be married to someone for the rest of your life if you're not satisfied with them? Think about it.
2006-06-09 22:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by B-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are in love with the romantic fantasy of being married.. but marriage is NOT a fantasy nor is it easy by any means. But that being said, never.. and I mean NEVER settle for less than what you KNOW you want. If you settle for less, you will never truly be happy. Marriage is hard enough without adding to it problems that could have been avoided. PLEASE don't be so eager to get married.. please wait until you meet someone you really DO love and want to be with for the rest of your life. Take it from someone who has been there.. I settled twice.. then I grew up and learned from it. Good luck.
2006-06-09 22:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i met the love of my life i was 18 i just passed high school and he was studying medicine with working in same hospital.We lived in same building but never met each other.We met online when he was abroad working(he had finished studies)and i was in college.He loves me and i know it since he waited for me till i was 24 years old which i am now soon we plan to take our relationship to next luck.So if he loves you hell be with you until you pass univ and have a job.As for not being able to do things he does he told me the same thing he never made it like it mattered to him that i couldnt go out party i was living with my parents studying he used to get off chat to say go study lol and he used to make sure i was protected and loved and possesive about me.So thats your answer if he does love you if its meant to be it will be.
2006-06-09 22:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will save everyone in your family and your life, everyone who loves you, and most of all yourself, a lot of possible heartbreak and pain if you just BUY THE DRESS and NOT get married. Give it a couple more years, there is no reason to rush. And every reason to wait.
2006-06-09 22:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋