man and woman married. separated. pregnant. does father have right to baby having his last name. please help?

Question

Thank You all for your quick answers. She left him because her mother said so. No abuse of any kind. Took most of wedding money and now playing head games. Father will be part of childs life at all cost. Again thank you all

Answer 1

Yes, if it's his baby. They're married and although they may be separated, they're still legally bound. The father has every right to demand that the baby be given his last name and if I were him, I would refuse to sign the birth certificate if anything else was put in.

Why assume the man left? She didn't say that in her question. She only said they were separated. Maybe the mother is the one who left!

Answer 2

As long as they're married he does. I had a baby with a woman and we were not married. We couldn't agree on a name. In the hospital the nurses said that whatever she wants is what the state is putting on the birth certificate. We submitted the papers and then she didn't trust that I wouldn't snatch the papers back from the people behind the desk and change it, so she left the hospital floor to get a Xerox of it. The hospital considered that abandoning the baby. This was just as we were being released. She was gone, so I said, "No probem, I'll take the baby home." The people told me that they are not allowed to release the baby to the father. How can that be? The woman is clearly crazy and has left the hospital. They would rather us talk to a counselor and then she leave with our baby than let the sane, rational father, take the child. And then of course when you get to court, the judge wants to know where the baby is living now. With the mother? Then the mother gets custody... even if she's crazy.

Answer 3

Don't know if you are referring to the legal right or moral. But if you are going to be rising the child, taking him to appointments enrolling in school etc, I strongly urge you to give the child your name. Iits less confusing for the child and for everyone that you come in contact with. I know this first hand. Also at some point you and your child may have to have a passport and the same last names make a huge difference when traveling out of the country, seriously you can not imagine the BS I just went through to renew my children's passports. If the father is insisting on his name, then do a hyphen name and then drop his for day to day use. Please before you make this decision you really need to think about this because its a serious decision, if I could do this over again I would have given my kids my last name and that was 20 years ago.

Answer 4

The father has the right to ASK that the Mother to give the child his last name, however, if the Mother is single she tells the hospital whta the child's name is and if she's in a good mode, she'll have the father placed on the birth certificate. If single, the Mother names the child, if married, the parents name the child.

Answer 5

The baby can have the father's last name. BUT the baby DESERVES a father's love and support. Child support is more important than the last name the child is given.

CHILD SUPPORT MUST BE PAID! Don't know if the asker is the father or mother, or concerned third party.
Child needs a full time father! Child needs a full time father! Child needs a full time father! Child needs a full time father! Child needs a full time father! Child needs a full time father!

If the parents cannot raise the child together then perhaps the child should be PUT UP FOR ADOPTION!

If the mother thinks she can raise the child alone (bad choice in many cases) then she MUST DEMAND CHILD SUPPORT.

If he cannot or does not then the child needs FINANCIAL SUPPORT!

CHILD SUPPORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A NAME! CHILD SUPPORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A NAME! CHILD SUPPORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A NAME! CHILD SUPPORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A NAME! CHILD SUPPORT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A NAME!

Answer 6

It's a tough one. If they are thinking divorce and the baby is most likely going to live with the mom, she may have good reason to want the baby to have her name. But if they have been married a while and the mom took her husbands last name, I think she should consider keeping the name and letting her baby have it to.
Either way the dad will always be the dad. Like they say "a rose by any other name ..."

Answer 7

as parents to this innocent child, they should be able to discuss it and decide what is best for the CHILD. Of course he has the right to wanting the babe to have his last name. At the same time what difference does it make what name the child has. In the end it's important that he has 2 parents that care enough about him to parent together, even though they are not a couple. I don't care what my name is but i know that my divorced parents love ME when we all have christmas dinner together.

Answer 8

Yep, 'fraid so. However I would use your maiden name in there as well. It makes it much easier if you do divorce if the child you are picking up at school has your name as well. If you were divorced or single, it would be a different matter but since you are still married and will be when the baby is born(?), you have to put his name in there. You can, however, put any other name in with it you like. Good luck!!

Answer 9

Not any more than her having the right for the child to have her last name. They should find a compromise. If they can't compromise on a simple name they will never compromise on anything with the child. They both need to grow up. For the sake of their child. If it's a boy...let him take daddys name. Girl...let her have mommys name. Was that so hard? I think it's fair.

Answer 10

Yes, if it's his baby. They're married and although they may be separated, they're still legally bound. The father has every right to demand that the baby be given his last name and if I were him, I would refuse to sign the birth certificate if anything else was put in.