i am a 24 year old mother of three with one on the way. i am in this relationship that i have been in for about a year and some change now and all through out this relationship i have been lied to and cheated on i know that the best thing for me to do is leave and i have tried but everytime hes gone i want him back, my days feel lonely without him and i spend all my time callin his family to keep track of him. when we break up he just moves right along to next chick and he tells me the reason is because he needed comfort when we get back together i feel trapped in web of lie and mistrust i always feel like every minute we are apart he is out doin somethin he has no business sex isn't the same i have to wait until he feels like it i am just so insecure and unhappy but i dont no how to get along with out there is more someone somewhere help me from drowing i want my normal happy life back what do i do?
2006-06-09 15:01:09 · 10 answers · asked by yousexythangyou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Someone once said marry the man who loves you not the one you love you will be happy.Your current relationship you feel your not in love with him since there are arguements and fights which is natural.About the one whose come back dont treat any guy or any person in your life like a stand by sorry to say thats what your doing and its wrong.Would you like it if some guy did that to you?no noone would so consider these things and its your choice in the end all im trying to say is dont hurt anyone in love since karma will come back what goes around comes around.Best of luck.
2006-06-09 15:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are so young to have 3 children and then another one on the way. Your children are a blessing however, you have to stop this. A lot of times, young ladies get caught up in guys that they fall for and then the guy may care to some degree, but not enough to be responsible and there the young lady is, left to deal with everything on her own. Hon, take a long hard look at your life before you. You are putting this guy in front of everything, mainly yourself. Wrong! Somewhere along the way, you lost your self confidence. Anytime someone has a person going crazy if they are not around, or calling their family to see where that person is, you have lost control! Now, all is not permanently lost, you are young, and you can regain your life. Start looking at yourself as a beautiful person, one who deserves happiness. I know you have heard it said before, learn to love yourself. That is so true. Think about the love you have for your children, you would destroy someone if they even attempted to harm your kids, why can't you have that same love for yourself. What I'm saying is this, please don't allow another human being to control your happiness in this life, stand tall and move the hell on. I know all about love, I know how badly it can hurt, but the pain does NOT last forever, and once the pain subsides, the healing begins, and you will know better what you deserve, and you will NOT accept anything less than that.
2006-06-09 22:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. It will be hard at first and u may feel lonely. Get a hobby or a job and put your children in daycare. Go out and meet other men. The best way to get over a man is another man. I know that sounds crazy but its true. I did it and it worked. U shouldnt be with someone who makes u feel insecure and unhappy, when u deserve someone who can give u everything u want and deserve. And u dont have to be with somebody to be happy.I'd rather be single or dating then to be in an unhappy relationship. That is also unhealthy.
2006-06-09 22:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by GaPeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get out while you still can. If not for yourself do it for your kids. Yes you may feel like you want him back after you leave but take the fact that he moves right along as a sign. And also the fact that you feel that he is going else where when you are with him is a sign that he probably is. Speaking from experience it gets better. Meaning that when you do finally get out the feeling of wanting him back goes away. It may take a while but when you reach the point of not wanting to be in that sisuation anymore you will leave and stay gone. I wish you the best of luck and as my last words I say to you "Keep your head up and find faith in GOD. He works miricales and gives you the strength you need to go forward."
2006-06-09 22:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by vgibson81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are very dependent on this guy. No one can love being treated the way he is doing to you. You don't miss him as much as you miss someone being there to help you with the kids and make love to you. Get yourself together, look for a way to manage the kids by yourself. Keep yourself looking as good as you can, someone will notice you. Don't let him keep knocking you down. He doesn't care if you get up or not, he'll just go find somebody that will defend him and his behavior. Stop looking for him, if he wanted to be with you he wlould be. Take the garbage out and put it(him) by the curb and don't look back. I assure you , you will feel better about yourself in no time. You are too young to be stuck in a rut. C'mon now, you can do it, don't give in and don't give up.
2006-06-09 22:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by the sealer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this unhealthy relationship. A man shouldn't have so much control over you. This is not a healthy relationship and he doesn't respect you.
He already knows he can do whatever and you'll always take him back because he senses how much your obsessed with him. You shouldn't have to call his family members to trace him down. Worry about you kids and maybe down the future you will find someone who you don't have to chase down to be with you.
Don't put up with this anymore -Leave!
2006-06-09 22:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just be with someone because you are lonely. It's understandable how you must be feeling - especially since you have kids and one on the way. This guy obviously doesn't love you and isn't good for you. Let him go! As hard as it might be stop calling to check up on him and stop communicating with him, even if he comes back to you. If you keep going in this vicious cycle with him you are only going to keep hurting yourself and your kids.
You deserve someone who loves you and respects and also loves your kids. You aren't going to be able to find that person if you are all wrapped up with this other guy and you haven't let him go.
2006-06-09 22:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up if not for you for the kids this cant be good for them especially if any of them are girls you arfe sending them the wrong message you are letting them know its ok to be walked on think about it...
2006-06-09 22:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him hun and focus on you. (and the kids obviously) You owe that to yourself.
2006-06-09 22:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bible, and get saved. Its the best way.
2006-06-09 22:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋