I'm 6 weeks along. We have our first Dr's appt on the 22nd. We have a "family" graduation party on 7/1 which will be 9 weeks. My husband and I met at this family party 6 years ago so I think for sentimental reasons we should share this happy news. Serious opinions only please.
2006-06-09 14:33:59 · 32 answers · asked by Jessica B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
With my first pregnancy, I waited until after the first trimester to tell any of my family (except my hubby of course, lol, I told him as soon as I knew). And I kind of regretted waiting. My second pregnancy, which ended in miscarriage (Don't worry about it girly, it was something that's run in my family); I told everyone right away; and felt alot more comforatble with it, being able to talk about it.
I think you should tell them at the party thing. It'll be the thing that's going to mean the most to all of you. They'll understand waiting for that, will understand that the party is where you first met, so hence is where you wanted to spread the news.
And last but not least.... Congratulations!
2006-06-09 14:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the clinic I work in we don't do first appointments until about 10 -12 weeks. Then the chances of miscarrage are drastically reduced and they may have even be able to hearthe hearbeat. You will want to tell the people closest to you so if you do have a miscarrage you will be able to talk to a few people about it to help you get over it.... me however I told everyone the moment the doctor called me with the results! It is all up to you. the only bad thing about telling everyone is that if there is a miscarriage people will still come up to you weeks later asking you how everything is with the pregnancy and that can make it hard. So at 9 weeks you should be set! That would be a very cute time to make the announcement!
2006-06-09 14:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is acceptable to tell people when you are 9 weeks pregnant, although it is advisable to wait the full 12 weeks, until you have a reduced risk of miscarriage. I would encourage you to ask yourself this question, 'If I do have a miscarriage, would I be comfortable with these people knowing?'. I have had a previous miscarriage, and told people before I got to the twelve week mark. I was very uncomfortable with so many people knowing, sending flowers and saying how sorry they were etc.
The miscarriage statistics are broken down like this:
Before twelve weeks, with no ultrasound: 20-25% chance of having a miscarriage
Before twelve weeks, with an ultrasound showing a normal fetus with a healthy heartrate: a lowered chance, estimated to be 10%. This is because you have then eliminated extra percentage because you would know that you are not having a blighted ovum pregnancy, an ectopic pregnancy or a molar pregnancy.
After twelve weeks, with healthy fetus: 3% chance. 80% of all pregnancy loss occurs before twelve weeks.
2006-06-09 15:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting until 9 weeks is a good idea. The risk of miscarriage decreases every week, so the longer you wait, if something happens, the easier it will be to deal with it. Trust me, you dont want people calling you asking how the baby is, and you have to say that you lost it!!! I think the sentimental aspects only add pleasure to the sharing of happy news! It will be easier with everyone there, too. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-09 14:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by HCW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds terrible and I don't want to worry you but I've read that many couples keep the pregnancy a secret until after the 3rd month and reason for that is because in your 1st trimester you have a higher risk of miscarrying. I didn't wait though. If something like that did happen then I wanted the support of my family. Here's a suggestion, wait until you have a sonogram picture and show your families the picture, no words needed.
2006-06-09 14:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience, wait as long as possible. Enjoy this time in your life, it will never be the same again even if you have 5 kids. The reason I say to wait, is so that you will have peace. You can relax and take in all the changes you are going through, and without everyone knowing, you will have alot less stress to deal with. If I get pregnant again, i'm not tellin until I absolutely have to and I mean that. other wise it makes for a long pregnancy and a huge headache.
2006-06-09 16:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share with the whole family after 9 weeks!
2006-06-09 14:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by #@&*? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, people wait until after their first doctor's visit to make sure that everything is going OK. But my husband and I told a few close friends the day we took to test at home! I think if you both are comfortable with telling people right away, then go right ahead! I think it would be very fitting to tell everyone the good news at this family occasion. Congratulations and good luck!
2006-06-09 14:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by tom8o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would wait until it is obvious and the doctor says that everything is going well. Only because I know of too many times that for whatever reason a miscarriage happens and it is hard enough to deal with that kind of sorrow without a lot of people asking about "the baby"
2006-06-09 14:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First trimester is prime for micarriage. If you miscarry at ten weeks after telling your whole family and lots of friends, you will have alot of painful explaining to do later when you see people around who think you're still pregnant.
It's wise to wait until twelve weeks.
2006-06-09 14:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Just Gone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋