ok so my mom found ciggerettes in my purse and a note about me smoking weed also today is da last day of school and i havent been doing so good well she grounded me for the summer liek im only allowed out two days out of the week on her days off nd my curfew is at 8 nd im not allowed on the computer more than a half hour and i can not watch much tv now this will be a borings ummer i have no idea what to do im pissed off do you think this is fair would you do the same?
2006-06-09 14:21:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If she found cigarettes and a note about you smoking pot and doesn't want you to get a police record that will haunt you for the rest of your life, she is doing the right thing. She is trying to teach you a lesson. When she is not home, you can do whatever you want. Be glad she didnt get a sitter. I think this is fair. She will probably let off at the middle-end of the summer, but for now she is going the right thing. You just probab;y dont want to see it.
2006-06-09 14:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by HCW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother I think she is being very fair.
Atleast she is letting you go out some.
There are things called respect and trust, they are things that you earn. Parents give alot of it at first, but when you mess up, and I am sorry but you messed up big time, you have to earn those things back.
If I were you I would sit and think about the trouble that these 2 things have already got you into. Are they worth pursuing after you have lost your whole summer?
Is the pot the reason that you haven't been doing so well in school? Is it worth losing your education over?
I asked my daughter the same question when she lost her scholarship for college because she got caught smoking pot.
She has quit, she also lost her drivers license for 6 months along with her scholarship but she has learned her lesson, she is now going to college, but she has to find grants and loans to pay for it instead of a scholarship that was free and clear. I asked her once here awhile back if it was worth it and she said if she had it all to do over again, it would never have happened.
If I were you, I would give your Mom a big hug, tell her how much you love her and thank her for loving you so much that she would put a stop to this before you got caught by someone else other than her.
Good luck to you and smile, because you have a mother that loves you very much.
God Bless you both.
2006-06-09 14:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may not understand. She can't protect you from what she may not get. Not allowing you to go out is damaging. The outdoors is good and hopefully hanging with friends would help. Then again she's doing what she thinks is best. It's not whether your punishment is fair, it's whether it's outcomes will be worth it.
You quit smoking? Worth it.
There are no notes about weed and you quit it? Worth it.
Try and respect her. You don't have to like her punishment...
just respect her and it may end quickly.
Whether it's fair is a matter of opinion.
My opinion?
I remain neutral.
Still sucks though.
-Alika613
2006-06-09 14:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by alika613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair and it really will not teach you anything. I think you need to use your alone time to reflect on what's going on wiith you and what kind of person you want to become. Help your mom around the house and develop a hobby that will make her proud. Ask to upgrade your grades by doing summer school or creating a home study plan for yourself. She might reallyimpressed by your new outlook on life and untie your ropes.
2006-06-09 15:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by moved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fair. You didn't just smoke... you smoke weed!!! Maybe the tv thing is a bit too harsh, but if I had a child like that I would most certainly ground them.
2006-06-10 01:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkin_juice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you haven't been acting responsibly, so your mom is using a bit of punishment and restrictions, and keeping you close to home. Perhaps you could do things that would indicate to her that you really do have a sense of responsibility--keep yourself and the place tidy, show her that you appreciate her and other things, and maybe she'll see that you can handle the responsibility of being away and with friends, without engaging in self-destructive behavior...
2006-06-09 14:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, read some books. I think it is a little much, but yes I would ground my kid. Maybe not to the extreme your mom did, but enough to keep a tight watch on them.
2006-06-09 14:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by tim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and she should send you to summer school as well, plus you should probably get a job. At least you'll have your foot in the door somehere when you drop out or fail highschool. You'll need something to support your drug habit.
2006-06-09 14:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serves your right, dear, for even trying that junk. You are lucky you get to watch TV. Perhaps your parents will let you use spell check next time.
2006-06-09 14:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it's fair you shouldn't be smoking weed without giving me none. daaa haa have a boring summer and come again. =]
2006-06-09 17:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by bambi..♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋