I was married and now getting divorced and we first started having problems I asked if he would go with me and see a marriage counselor, he said "we will just go ahead and get divorced cuz I am not going to go see a counselor"... well 9 months later, I couldn't take it anymore... every month we argued over the SAME things.... never got better and I told him after the holidays it was over.. he said "why wait till the holidays are over?" I kept it to myself and went thru the holidays and NOW .....NOW.... the holidays came and went and I told him to leave by the end of Jan... he did, but NOW.............he wants back and he wants to see a counselor...he even started going on his own by himself???? and is now blaming me for not wanting to get help? I fell out of love with him and now he is doing everything EVERYTHING he can to win me back.. I DON'T WANT BACK!!! So, again, why does he NOW WANT WHAT HE CAN'T HAVE??????
2006-06-09 14:09:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reality of living on his own has hit him big time. don't give in, he will return to his former self given time. Good luck
2006-06-09 14:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that You only precipitated things to reach that level.
You should not have initiated the talks of going to a counsellor and reminded time and again.
He may be a quite guy by nature.
I think that you are a bit more aggressive in forming opinions,
I think you have alternatives now to look for another person as husband.
Your husband had never an alternative like yours.
He may be regretting now for a possible breakdown in the marriage, and wants you back.
You should visit a psychiatrist and explain him every thing about the entire happenings. He shall surely help you in this serious matter, of courese, if you are looking for a solution to this. And if you have decided to break finally, then no one can help you for restoration.
2006-06-09 14:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by pianist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality might have just smacked him upside the head and made him realize how much he loves you and values his marriage with you. If he has put the effort in to see a counselor and is asking to save your marriage - why not try. It's what you wanted before, his timing just took a bit longer. Your relationship might not be fixed over night and you might not fall in love with him again overnight - but if you give it a chance it might happen. The odds are you still love him and if you don't give it your all to make it work you might regret it later.
2006-06-09 14:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you booted him, he got a taste of life without you. If you aren't already in another relationship, maybe let him take you out and see if he's changed, maybe you can love him again, and maybe you can't, but it will settle in his mind that you at least tried!
Sometimes love is better the 2nd time around, when people realize their faults and want to try and change, they can do it!
He didn't want to before...but he is trying to show you he is now.
It has to be your decision, and you are the one who can make you happy...go with your heart after some deep serious thought, you loved him once.....
2006-06-09 14:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us want what we can't have, it's easier in the long run.
It may be the things we want will be difficult to cope with in reality, so when we don't get them we are just a tad relieved. When we don't get the things we want we make a fuss because we know deep down inside we are only kidding ourselves.
2006-06-09 14:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by jane m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he thought the grass was greener on the other side and when he found out it wasnt he wanted back in your yard well good for you for putting up that fence the only other thing to do is leave it up cause once you let him back in he will jump the fence again...
2006-06-09 14:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋