Will I really screw myself up financially by divorcing now, or should I wait until 2 kids are over 18?
2006-06-09 14:02:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well they base child support by your income. So it really doesn't matter, because you will pay for your kids one way or the other!
If you are really miserable leave now, don't put the kids through it, they will feel it much more than you think. If you're miserable they are. But sit them all down and be honest with them, they're old enough to understand!
And don't badmouth your wife ever....that is child's play, and parents divorcing are good at it, just because you both can't get along doesn't mean either of you should condemn each other in front of them, you are still and will always be THEIR parents!
2006-06-09 14:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The child support will be based on your income it averages out to 20% of your gross income. Depending on the judge he might use your monthly gross or your yearly gross and if you make 6 times more than your wife you are looking at alimony also. I don't know where you live but if your children go to college & stay at home with their mom then you are entitled to pay child support up to the age of 25 depending on the circumstances.
I feel bad for your children, they should have a father that wants to spend every minute that he can with them, not someone who worries that if he divorces his wife he will have to pay out some big bucks...gee wiz, what happens when they need a pair of shoes?? are you going to tell them no because you pay so much child support. If you are worried about messing yourself up financially by divorcing your wife now then maybe your children would be better off, I just imagine how much gripping you do now.
2006-06-09 21:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you slice it, divorce is a financial shipwreck. I suspect by virtue of asking in this forum, you haven't even discussed your feelings with your wife.
When you got married, you made a vow to love and honor. When you had children, weather you accept it or not, you made a lifetime commitment to help them become stable, well adjusted adults. Bailing now will not achieve that goal.
Stick it out man. Talk with your wife and explain that your not happy. Listen to her as well. Maybe you can recharge the flame.
2006-06-09 21:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by hmguy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of putting so much effort into thinking how your family affects you financially - why don't you put some effort into making your marriage work? If your marriage is at the point where you know you want to leave get into counseling and be honest with your wife about how you are feeling.
2006-06-09 21:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now up for worst father of the year award.
You brought these kids into the world, it is up to you to provide for them. If you feel like your marriage is over then be a man & finish it now without thinking about the money.
What if your kids decide to go to college, you will have to pay for that too.
Quite frankly, I think that your family would be better off without you especially since the only person you seem to care about is yourself.
2006-06-16 16:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see....you will give about half you ownings to your wife. She will get a very big alimony for several years. Each kid will get between 750-1000 each for child support PER MONTH, and she will get the house, the car(s), and you will pay, in addition, all medical expenses for the household, probably any mortgage payments, college, clothing costs. You will also be responsible for all insurance payments. Now, if the 6 times what your wife makes means you make about 400,000 per year, that puts her at about 65K per year, and that is not enough to maintain her lifestyle, so you will have to contribute about 1500 per month to her in addition to all the above. After taxes, you take home about 250K, You will pay out of pocket, about 3K per month for child support, maybe more (36-40K per year), and all mortgage payments (50K per year??) and insurance costs (about 8K per year?) and then tuition for college (allow 100k-150k per child) or a total of about 75K per year for the next 4-6 years . YOu are going to have left over, at tops, about 60K per year. Seems your life style is going to change drastically. Yes, go ahead and get a divorce. On the other hand, if that 6 times your wife's earnings are considerably less than what I said above, you are going to have to get a couple of part time jobs to break even, aren't you...talk about a change in life style. Good luck
2006-06-09 21:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make it work for the kids sake.
i divorced my wife and my 4 kids still cant get over it 2 years l8r
2006-06-09 21:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have bad ideas on your mind!!!
Why did you make love with your wife and produce those kids if you dont want to be financially bankrupt?
2006-06-09 22:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Curiosity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant buy and sell your kids in a divorce and even though they your kids she can still fight for custody of the children. I hope she takes you to the cleaners
2006-06-09 21:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the 18 year is out of school you wont have to pay for that one ,, why not just take custody of all three and make her pay child support.
2006-06-09 22:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋