What ages?!?!?

Question

I am a new mother to a beautiful baby girl! I have been having a break-down on figuring out ages to talk to her about certain subjects and let her do certain things... so here goes...

When should I start talking to her about sex?
When should I let her wear thongs?
When should I let her date?
When should I let her with be a boy alone??
I NEED HELP!!! Hahahaha! Um I wanna ask some more questions so if a VERY knowlaged mommy could e-mail me or im me that you be GREAT! Thanks! Arianna and Celeste.

I wanna have a VERY open realationship with my daughter so she knows she can come to me with ANY kinda question and so that she knows I wont ever tell her that its a bad/silly/weird question and I that I'll listen to her.. ya know?

Answer 1

I think you're worrying too much too soon! Relax and enjoy the baby time because it goes by too fast! Congrats and good luck! Just love her!

Answer 2

I think it's great that you want to have an open relationship with your daughter. My mom was a nurse and we had a very open relationship. A lot of these questions you will have to wait and if you have a close relationship with her, you will know when the right time to talk to her is about these difficult subjects. It's also important to note that on some of these things she will come to you when she is ready. Some of these things will depend on how mature she is for her age. So, in answer to your question, it's not something that can be answered by giving definite ages. Everyone's answer is going to be different based on what kind of parent they are. My best advice to you is to just keep an open relationship with her and let her know she can come to you for anything. That is how my mom and I were and I can tell you, I grew up fine and I have a 5 yr old and a 7 yr old and I'm happily married and can say, I have no regrets.

Answer 3

Always reinforce the fact that you want her to come to you with questions, and that you won't be angry or give her false information. Now is not the time to worry about these things. Enjoy her innocence now because it all changes soon enough. When you feel she is ready to be spoken to about certain issues, you'll know it. I'm a mom of an 11 yr old daughter, and we've already had numerous conversations. We have an awesome relationship, in that she and I are very open with each other. Don't worry...it'll all happen when it's supposed to.

Answer 4

Sex talk i think should be around 10 you dont want her to find out by classmates and stuff
Thongs should probably be worn in about high school
Dating should start around 15 or 16
Alone with boys i would say if shes responsible 14 if not 16 i hope i helped dont worry and congrats

Answer 5

New mom, first off grads. Second of all forget the questions. There is no appropraite age for any of these questions it all depends on the maturity of the yungun. Talk to her about these things when she has her first period. That could be at age 9 or as late as age 14. Thats when me and my wife did this with our 2 girls. And yes I participated in those conversations even tho I was the DAD.

Answer 6

At a young age, just dont pervert her.

When she gets married, so that she doesnt wind up pregnant before she is responsible and mature enough to know the answer to these questions.

When she is mature anough to then again (read above).

When she gets married.

My goodness, a child rasing a child. Little wonder why this world is so messed up.

No offense though, you keep asking these questions to the perfect strangers mom, hopefully amidst this web site you find the answers you are looking for. Or, you can give her up for adoption, maybe to parents who know how to care for the baby and know the answers.

Answer 7

1- 11/12 but at an earlier age tell her the consquense.
2-14/15
3-15/16
4-17

Take Care

Answer 8

I would love to answer this question but the thing is that things change so much over just a couple of years... everything depends on her maturity. But I have a baby boy-8 months old so I just recently went through everything that you are about to go through so if you want I can help you out with any questions you might have about your baby! I would love to! All of my friends come to me about thier kids too so I have gotten a lot of experiance.... [e-mail]

Answer 9

I would start at the age of 16

Answer 10

How fun you are!

Sex: When she asks. And she will, trust me.
Thongs: When she gets worried about panty lines. And don't worry, they don't make them in a size 6X.
Dating: Sometimes its an issue of when to let them and sometimes its an issue of whether anyone is asking them. Both are their own unique issues. My advice is to tackle this one when you get to it rather than set rules you find you really don't want to enforce.
Boys alone: Depends on how soon you want to be a Grandma:) Again, I would say depends on the girl, depends on the boy. Don't box yourself in too much, because you lose the joy of the journey.

You're gonna be a great Mom!

Answer 11

hello, I have 6 kids , only i am in the same boat...my only daughter is 1-1/2...however, I have learned some stuff with the boys...My oldest is almost 19 and we are best friends....we can talk about everything..first of all, remember, your a mother first, then her friend...then, don't be in a hurry for her to grow up and only tell her what she wants to know, let her ask the questions and then you be truthful with her and don't valenteer any info...she will ask about sex when she is ready...but only answer her questions, and no more...the younger they are, the briefer the answer, the better.........