I don't want to keep it or lose it, but I really don't know since I am only 14.
2006-06-09 13:56:14 · 24 answers · asked by teenomommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
your body ur say-i am ur age and i can say i hope dad is involved no matter wat
2006-06-09 14:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by belovedcarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cant force you to have an abortion. Having an abortion will have lasting affects on you mentally. While you are too young to care for a child, carry the child to term, get pre-natal care and give the baby up for adoption. There are a lot of couples out there that can not have children. You can do a closed or open adoption. And there are even families that will take you in and care for you while you are pregnant. Do some research and find an adoption lawyer or a family planning couselor. They can direct you towards a better option.
Give the baby a chance at life. You chose to have sex, dont make the baby pay for your choices. I was single and living on my own and I got pregnant too. Granted I am much older, but I am taking care of my responsibility and since the father isnt involved, my family is helping out a lot.
Your mother can not make you have a abortion. Even though you are a minor, she can not force you. An abortion has the be the choice of the person carrying the child.
2006-06-09 15:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by southrntrnzplnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex went through this same situation. She was 16 though. Her mother told her to get an abortion and she did. We were only friends at the time and not dating. The guy she was dating didn't give her a straight answer as to what to do. He only said "I'll decide whatever you decide." He knew she was getting pressured by her mom. In the end, she got the abortion and regreted the decision. My advice, if you do not want a baby, give he/she up for adoption once they are born. Do not kill the kid. At least this way, you can live your life knowing that you have a child living somewhere safe as opposed to living with the knowledge that you killed something that was part of you before they could make an arguement. Its your body and your decision though. Your mother should only advise you and not make the decision for you. HOWEVER, whatever you decide to do, make sure you are ready to face whatever happens tomorrow or ten years from now.
2006-06-09 14:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by vail2073 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't only your body but your BABY she cannot tell you what you are to do with your child. If you get an abortion you will have to live with the thoughts of how old your baby would be, and what she would have looked like and so on and so forth for the rest of your life. She won't. You have the option of adoption. You have the option of requesting an adoption where you have the right to see your child a certain amount of times a month and so on so you will always be a part of her life. At the age of 14 you probably can't give the baby the best possible life but you can decide to give it a life. You were old enough to make the decision to have sex so now it is your responsibility and only yours to give birth to the child. Please email me and I will help you with all of your options. Sometimes parents are wrong and right now your mom is. suzannekumaraswamy@yahoo.com
2006-06-09 14:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by 20mommy05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want an abortion dont get one. Your mother can not force you to have one. She can say that your child may not live at her home. I would look into other options for your baby.... adoption through and agency or family member who can care for the baby. Abortion just doesn't seem right to me. Good Luck
2006-06-09 14:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother can't force you to have an abortion. If I was pregnant, I am fifteen. I would contact my local birthright center, they help support you through the pregnancy. Then they will find a good home for it and it would be in your area so you could still know that it is alive and well.
2006-06-10 05:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by cross_country_ammo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep it will be difficult. So I'm just going to be blunt and answer the question.
NO. Even children have rights and I believe since the child belongs to you it's your choice. The stress of raising a child can be tremendous sometimes. You might consider adoption. Then the child is alive and with a family that loves him/her. Good luck. Please don't do something you'll regret, keep it... abortion...?
It IS up to you! So... What are you going to do?
-Alika613
2006-06-09 15:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by alika613 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety don't even worry yourself over that. I kno because i've been through it when u go to the doctors office you sign papers your parents don't have no say whatsoever in the situation because it's your body. I understand that you're too young and she doesn't want it to ruin your life cuz trust me it ain't easy but we all learn from our mistakes. Or only if you want and u kno u're not ready consider adoption. That is wayy better than killing a part of you. Stay strong
2006-06-09 16:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Shundrika T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think adoption! You are only 14 and there is no way you can care for a baby. They are very expensive!(I've had 4!) There are a lot of people out there, who would give your baby a wonderful, loving home, and family. Your mom can't MAKE you have an abortion, and I don't think you should. But when this is all over with, please, please, please protect yourself if you are going to have sex!!!! You don't want to have to go through all of this again!
2006-06-09 14:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by momx4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't want to keep the baby then put it up for adoption.
Don't get an abortion though.
2006-06-09 15:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about adoption instead... If you have an abortion ( I hope you don't) you will have to live with knowing you killed your unborn baby. She won't. Adoption is the best alternitive. I suggest before you let her talk you into one, BOTH of you watch an abortion video together...then decide! Go to Silentscream.com.
2006-06-09 14:43:33 · answer #11 · answered by GibsonGirlz4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋