2006-06-09 13:47:39 · 26 answers · asked by anti_socialparanoid 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Crying alone causes a baby to produce cortisol--a stress hormone--even after she stops crying. It means that calories that your daughter needs for growth and development will instead be used for stress reduction.
Leaving her to cry will also teach her a lesson--that when she is *totally* dependent, the people who love her the most won't care for her. She *will* remember this message--even if not consciously--for the rest of her life.
How would *you* feel if you came home one day in tears and your husband told you in an annoyed tone of voice, "If you have to make that noise, please go into your room and leave me alone!"? Babies are people!
And, all the *things* in the world can't replace a loving parent. Again, this gives the baby the message that people can't be counted on and things can. Which do you want her to have deep inside her when she's a teenager and a friend tells her "Drugs will help you deal with your problems"?
If you are trying to make your child "independent", you might consider whether you would let her go into the kitchen by herself, prepare her own food, and eat it herself. She is *not* ready to be independent. She knows it, and you do, too.
Crying is not good physically, emotionally, or psychologically. Pick her up. Giving *things* will spoil children. You can't spoil a child with *love*.
2006-06-10 11:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please don't let your 2 month old cry. Babies don't learn to "self soothe" until after 6 months. Your 2 month old needs something if she is crying. Sometimes after you've tried everything and you just feel crazy put the baby down for a few minutes and take a break......walk away and let her cry a few minutes. Chances are at 2 months and she's crying she's trying to tell you something. She's too young to be manipulative about holding her all the time. She'll get better most babies crying decreases after 3 months. Good Luck!
2006-06-09 21:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by ca_oss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has an opinion about this subject...My baby's doctor told me that I should let her cry sometimes so she will learn to sooth herself and be self relient...I just can't do it though I always pick her up and hold her cause I can't stand for her to be unhappy...People tell me I am spoiling her and that she is gonna be a brat when she gets older but I believe that she will be a happy loved baby and will know that her mommy and daddy love her and will always be here to comfort her...I believe babies need to be held and comforted thats how the learn to trust and love you...My daughter is 5 months old and I think she is a happy healthy baby.
2006-06-09 23:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure her diaper is changed and she if fed, not too hot or cold wich you can tell by know how hot or cold you are. If all these things are done then it shouldn't hurt to let her cry for a little while because you won't want to pick her up all the time. I know you must have other things to take care of and it's not that easy with a little baby on your hip all the time. Eventually she'll fugure out that you won't pick her up every time she cries and eventually it will stop util she really needs something.
2006-06-15 22:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy F. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby that young cries because she needs something! Don't let her cry... figure out what is wrong. Also, holding and comforting a baby makes the baby feel more secure than letting her cry.
2006-06-09 22:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by GibsonGirlz4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my baby was little she is now two. I would respond as quickly as I could to her cries, they say that it reassures them that you will be there and makes them less likely to cry, now sometimes, if a baby cries and you have done everything, fed, changed diaper, checked temperature... sometimes they have gas and you can bounce it out gently, but when the usual stuff doesn't work, you could try a bath, going for a walk, soothing singing... I always liked to whisper to my baby right beside her ear she would quiet down to listen to my voice. And if after all that she still continues to cry sometimes you have to put them in their crib, remove any blankets, toys etc, maybe set the mobile on, and then walk out of the room, take a 10 minute breather, keep an ear on your baby, if anything sounds wrong immediately go in, but sometimes they have to cry it out. Best piece of advice use your own judgment and mother's instinct... you are her parent and you know what is best for her
2006-06-09 20:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by iluvmyduckies05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A two month old can't do anything for herself. You have been given the privelege of getting to do that for her, and teach her to do for herself later on. Your baby will learn very early on whether or not you are reliable. When my DD was itty bitty, it didn't take me long to recognize the difference between her crys (wet/poopy, hungry, etc). Try to see of you can distinguish them. This will help you in the months to come. As your baby gets older, you will also be able to tell when it is a cry for attention (which is always good) or necessity. And from there, teach your child to be self sufficient. This is a very important lesson that we all have had to learn...
2006-06-09 21:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by lilsis_n82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let a 2 month old just cry. they are too young to associate crying with attention. at that age they are trying to tell you of some discomfort or even have colic. if you hold them they will NOT grow up to be some needy person constantly in need of attention, there is no such thing as an independent 2 month old.
2006-06-09 21:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by N. K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At two months old you are not going to do any damage by picking her up when she cries. Of course there are times when you can't just drop everything and get her as soon as she starts to cry, but try not to let her get herself all worked up by crying too long. As she gets older you will miss the times you didn't hold her when you had the chance.
2006-06-09 20:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by colorados_lost_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on why she's crying. My daughter started teething at 6 weeks old (Hyland's Teething Tablets are AWESOME!!!) which caused her to cry until we found something that really helped. Does your daughter have a stiff belly? It could be colic which is a result of an improper balance of good bacteria v. bad bacteria in her digestive tract. Try feeding her a small amount of plain yogurt (live cultures--VERY important!!) to see if this helps. I'm assuming that you have checked her diaper and fed her/burped her.
If she is simply crying to be held, make sure you set her where she can see you. Talk with her. Sing to her. Keep her interested; she's probably very smart and needing interaction.
BTW congratulations!
2006-06-09 20:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋