Ive been with my fiance for almost 3 years we have a 1 year old daughter.He likes to watch porn and wants me to watch and give him oral sex he stoped for a while because I hated it it makes me feel awful and I just think there nasty.In some ways I feel like he is cheating. Over the last week he has got back in to it I watched it and did what he wanted and it almost made me sick. I told him it really hurt me and he doesnt care he says I wont let him do anything.I would never hurt him like this,but I need to know what to do,and also if im wrong for banning porn?Please help I really hope someone can relate.. Thank you for your time.
2006-06-09 13:42:45 · 11 answers · asked by lori b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It honestly sounds like something is lacking in the "bedroom". Maybe he needs this porn to fulfill some sort of empty space the you aren't filling. He's not cheating on you, they're movies for God's sakes, but maybe if you talk about it and ask him WHY he watches them, maybe you'll get an answer. Be open. An open relationship is a healthy relationship, not only in the communicating sense, but also healthy in the bedroom.
Hope this helps
2006-06-09 13:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him watching porn isn't the end of the world.
It can be a big turn on for both you and him if you join him in watching. At least once.
It's not like he doesn't find you sexy or attractive, and it's not cheating.
Men are just very Visual beings...so the more they see the better...ever noticed when your giving oral that your man watches...it's a turn on for them to see.
I say try watching with him at least once....you might be surprised by your reactions to it. Go into it with an open mind. Let yourself be relaxed...and enjoy it. Trust me he isn't looking down on you if you enjoy it too....that in it's self will turn him on.
You can try to insist he quit watching it all together....but I am afraid you will only be setting yourself up for more hurt and disappointment.
You will also notice the less off limits you make it the less of an issue it will be....
2006-06-09 14:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, thats sad to hear.
I'ts obviously soemthing he loves to do, it's awefulthat it bothers you. If he loves you he will stop, I know you probally tryed to talk to him about it, but maybe you should try again. Nothing is going to change if the problem is not brought up. Explain to him how it makes you feel. If that doesn't help, then I would think it's time to re-examine the relationship. Can you live with it, or is it really that bad. Gd luck sugar:)
xx
2006-06-09 13:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Laura M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i enjoy watching porn with the man i'm with,try it and some great things muight come of it,,,you'll soon feel more open minded about your relationship
2006-06-09 13:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how u feel and that u think u can satisfy him better than porn can
2006-06-09 13:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how would you feel if he tell you to stop using your sex toys?
Porn= men's version of sex toys
2006-06-09 13:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DiS SoOO ****** Up.,Oh well,,watch it with him soo you can do it right when you sleep with him..!!And i guess when you learn he dont need to watch porn no more..
2006-06-09 13:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over yourself. He's not out with a hooker, he is using visual stimulation to enhance his relationship with YOU. Keep up your crap, and color him gone.
2006-06-09 13:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok....ur lucky because he want to watch porn with you...you should be mad if he is watching porn with other woman...i think he want to have more sexdrive...
2006-06-09 15:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it sounds, you should give him a ultimatum.
2006-06-09 13:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋