I would like advice on what i should do?

Question

I am 18 years old and have recently experienced the break up of my parents, i currently live with my dad and have talked to him about how he feels and how i feel. I had decided not to get married as to not have to experience what he has, i was until recently living life as a celebut/asexual quite happily but recently i have found myself getting very angry at members of the oposite sex and people in relationships, this is very unatural for me as i am usualy very calm and understanding towards people in any circumstance, what should i do?

Answer 1

You have to move on1That is something very natural for the parents to get ina divorce.All this stressful life leads to that.That,of course,doesn't happen all the time.You don't have to be angry with anybody.Just live your life and don't worry about anything!good Luck!!!

Answer 2

i think you are projecting your own feelings onto others. Divorce is not necessary a negative thing. It's very difficult for two people to be able to stay with each other for long. Many factors are involve. Sometimes it's healthier to end the relationship than continue the hurt and harm that couple hurl at each other. And it's definately not healthy for the children either. Your parents divorce has to do with their relationship. It's got nothing to do with you.and it does not reflects every other couples in the world. It does not conclude that you will end up the same. It's part of being human being forming relationship with others. Unless you live in an island by yourself, you can't avoid that. Why deprive youself from such experiences. In time you will understand.....

Answer 3

What you're feeling is common among many affected by divided families. My kids were affected in similar fashion. The good part is that you seem to have a very good sense of self-awareness. You know what's happening and you don't like it, but you're seeking answers and solutions. I believe with most young people, things will come into better focus and perspective as you get older. And you may one day have a GF who comes from the same family background, so she will know your pain and confusion. In more serious matters, professional counseling might help, but then it costs. I sense that you'll work things out in due time. I really do.

Answer 4

I know what you mean, when my parents got divorced I went through the same things. But eventually I realized that the way I was feeling towards other people, all that hatred and anger was for nothing. It's not anyone Else's fault that divorce happens, unfortunately your parents, like mine, just weren't meant to be, you have every right to be emotional about it, but spending years of your life hating other people for being happy in relationships, and not allowing yourself to experience the happiness love can bring is not worth it, you'll end up bitter, and alone.

Answer 5

It is normal to feel angry after your parents break up. It insets the whole apple cart. First remember it was not your fault, It was something they apparently could not work out together. You should find a help line in your area or talk to someone at the local hospital to see if there is one in your area talking to a professional about this will help you to vent your problem and help you to understand your problem better. It is a problem when you find it hard to deal with. Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all there is nothing you did to cause the break up.Anger is the flip side of depression and if you were not depressed I would be surprised.A divorce of parents is a major life stressor.You should talk with you doc and ask his advice.An anti depressant would really help you.go to www.depressionhurts.com

Answer 7

Between us,two guys,firs have sex.Second it is NOT your fault that your parents split up.You must get over it or you will ruin your life,and you are young,and your life is the important thing in this story.It's hard,i know,but get stronger to move on,and live your life.That is it...It's all about your life.