every time i talk to a man, for any reason. my boyfriend gets upset and thinks im flirting (which im not). his ex-wife cheated on him a couple of times. and now he think all women are the same and that i will cheat on him also. please i love this man and i want this realationship to work out, but if he doesn't trust me then i can't be with him. i need some tips on ways i can get him to trust me.
2006-06-09 12:26:29 · 12 answers · asked by carrasmel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now your situation reminds me of myself and one of my former friends'.
Okay, now this is going to be a long one, so I want you to read through this end to end.
I think what almost 8 out of 10 guys/girls will get cheated in their life time, which does not mean, they are going to turn into people who do not trust their future partners. Thats is SIMPLY ridiculous!!
I got cheated and dumped by my first official girlfriend on Valentines day and then by second (and current) girlfriend. But that did not turn me into a green eyed monster, turning furious at any guy that my girlfriend speaks to. Infact I have come to trust her SO much that I let her express her 'crush' on a guy. She cheated on me not once, not twice but 3 times, but now I trust her enough that I know that she would NEVER do anything that would hurt me, that she would never fall into temptation even if she is in a room full of naked men!!!
Your boyfriend is just using you, he has you on a tight leash.
If he does not trust you now, when do you expect him to trust you?? Come on, girl, you are in a world that has men!! Not in Venus, for crying out loud.
You may think that he is just been protective and stuff like that, but you know what, thats all just a lot of BULL CRAP!!!!
I have been there and I am back. When you are so controlling, it is not because he loves you, but because he gets that inner satisfaction that he has 'held' you. He is happy that you 'obeying' him and 'at his commands'. Is this what your parents brought you up for?? Do you not have any self respect or indignity left??
You have to sit down and talk to him, or else your freedom will be history. Even animals learn to overcome cheating spouses and learn to love their new faithful partners, so where does he get his theory that he is not able to let go on his past??
Okay, so he got cheated, he may also have got cut with a knife, or fallen off a bicycle, but that didnt stop him from using a knife or a cycle, did he?? Thats right. He is using the oldest trick in the Mens (not very) Big Book of Excuses.
I could go on and on.. but I guess I am done typing for the day.
Over and out for the Weekend!!
But you better make a informed move, dont stick around with the Loser!!
Cheers!!
2006-06-09 12:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 22:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by gennaria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting the sins of the ex onto you. It is really hard when that happens but he needs to get you are a different person. You aren't her. Really he needs some sort of help to get over it. If he doesn't this will be a problem ALL the time forever more.
Once in a while the jealousy will amp itself up to something else even uglier.
2006-06-09 12:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real question is what are you doing with a man who doesn't trust you. Whether or not his ex-wife cheated on him is not the question. That was his ex-wife, you are you. And if he's willing to be in a relationship with you, there's gotta be trust.
He has to work this issue out before this gets worse.
2006-06-09 12:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's hurt, and trying a power struggle. You must be honest with him and tell him you have not given him any reason to be jealous. If there isn't trust, there isn't a relationship. I wish you the best.
2006-06-09 12:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better just get used to getting in trouble cause he's not going to get over it for a long while, that is a very traumatizing ordeal someone has to go through, especially if the person was madly in love with the cheater, caue your alway's going to have a guy talk to you so you better get used to getting in trouble, or find someone who will trust you better.....
2006-06-09 12:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by kournikova57k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably will never have that trust in you because of his past experiences. Try to deal with it or leave.
2006-06-09 12:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by eskimo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him change. You should seriously getting away from the relationship.
2006-06-09 12:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by wildstar_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to do that. the only way that will happen is if he wants to trust you
2006-06-09 12:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by dzyerda1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop hanging around so many men and your boyfriend wouldn't be so jealous.
2006-06-09 12:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by arsehole_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋