I have been with this guy for 3 months. We are in love and all that but when it comes to sex, he dosnt like to talk about it, nor have it. We had manual sex,(foreplay) and last time I did the oral sex for him but he said he liked it but he really wanted to wait. I asked him why he dosn't like talking about sex and he told me that talking about it sometimes bored him. That is so weird for me, aren't guys supposed to at least like talking about it??? Please help, I love him so much but I cannot understand him.
*I forgot to write down some details that might have been helpful so I decided to write them down:
I am 18, my boyfriend is 20. I am not virgin. I asked him about his virginity and he said he wasn't a virgin either. . He is very affective. I did talked with him bout this, he said he loved me so so much he wanted to respect me, I told him I had no problem on having sex, but he said he wanted to wait for the right moment cause he feels he isn't ready yet.Is he telling the truth?
2006-06-09 12:17:15 · 10 answers · asked by OneWord. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just chill on the sex. It will happen. If he wants to respect you and not sleep with you, then just wait and when it happens, it will be great. Guys do grow up and get to an age that they don't want to talk about it all the time. But it does concern me that he is getting oral sex from you but not giving maybe? that means to me that he is playing a game.
2006-06-09 12:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by profghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ready to give it up faster than he is.
Also your sex drive may be faster than his.
Make sure that he is not just saying he loves you, just because you said it to him first.
The sex drive will become a problem later in life when one person wants sex so much more often than the other. That will certainly cause a problem later on in the relationship.
2006-06-09 12:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill ok. He just wants to respect you. I think that he has some sort of problem he doesn't wanna talk about. Ask him how he feels. So you don't end up in an arguement.
2006-06-09 12:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by babysmarts4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey ask him if he would rather wait until he is married
if u really want sex then just wear the hottest tightest best looking clothes you can find you need to turn him on not off
2006-06-09 12:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by babygrll142 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not ready to take things to the next level, it thnk he is telling the truth, hes just not ready to have a long term comitment, give him time and like h said; wait for the right moment
also he might want to wait for marrige, his 1st time could have just happened when he didnt want it to
2006-06-09 12:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by {the heronie's secret} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal especially since he already did it. he's probally waiting to get married cause the last girl obvisouly dumped him so he's not going to risk having sex and then getting dumped again
2006-06-09 12:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by sexylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is not like every other man, which every women has a right to assume. I think you should hang on to him.
2006-06-09 13:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by tezinfotech 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt if hes telling the truth. if he wanted to wait and respect you so much he wouldnt have let you do him.
2006-06-09 12:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by dzyerda1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want sex then you need to hook up with me. E-mail me at ntshawn6012003@yahoo.com, I can make you forget about him. Send me some photos of yourself while you're at it. I'll holler at you. I'll just take off from where he doesn't want to go with you. Alright?
2006-06-09 12:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen eventually.
2006-06-09 12:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Judas Rabbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋