Honesly, I hate him... but other then dumping me for a STUPID reason i dont see a reason to still be SO pissed off still. Im usually not an angery person but I dont know about this time... maybe its easier then being sad?? I duno is anyone else feel like this?
2006-06-09 12:09:46 · 17 answers · asked by Katy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget it it's over move on
2006-06-09 12:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by cutesweetbooty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best Answer!
The first thought by many will be that its natural and whatever, but the truth is that you have to learn how to forgive your self first.
The anger is extension of your feelings of how you see your self. Feeling let down or mislead or you could have been smarter as not to have gotten into such a pissy situation are some of your thoughts right now. If you forgive you and begin letting the negative feelings subside time will be your best friend to making a permenant change of heart. Once you let the negative feeling of how you see you then start actually dating another person and he'll be a after thought.
Hope this answers / helps.
2006-06-09 19:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Blacknight2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hanging onto the anger really isn't easier than being sad. It takes soooooooooooo much more energy to be mad/angry. And holding onto the anger will only hurt you, not him. It sounds as if he has moved on. Try your best to let go of the anger, work thru the rest of your feelings (anger is just a cover up emotion for other emotions below the surface), then move on. You will feel better in the long run.
2006-06-09 19:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you talking to him isn't going to change the status quo.. If you have this much emotion for the ex.. you aren't really over him you still care. Love and hate are so close, it's when you don't care anymore that you are really over te person.
You feel betrayed and who wouldn't. I think it just takes time.
I personally wanted to drive a scuba spear thru the top of my ex's car (he bought it on our daughters b-day.. but never sent her as much as a card) every time I saw it. I felt that way for a LONG time. Now I don't care and actually never even give him so much as a thought. Time is the only difference.
2006-06-09 19:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes getting dumped---especially girls. Don't worry about it, this feeling will probably be with you for awhile. What you need to do is find a way to channel that negative energy into something positive(i.e. exercise or doing something you enjoy). In time, you'll find another person---someone who is a million times better than your ex---and you'll have the luxury of dissing the loser who dumped you. Isn't that a beautiful thought?
Aria
*The illnovelist*
2006-06-09 19:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you're really over him. If you were, you wouldn't "hate him" and still be "mad as hell". When you're really over someone, it's over! The feelings (both good and bad) subside.
There's a very thin line between love and hate. Both are very strong emotions, and it's hard to really hate someone unless you've really loved them.
Be honest with yourself about where you are. When the emotions go away, you're over him. Not before.
2006-06-09 19:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive him in your heart - you will feel better. You are angry because you have bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness inside of you. Forgive him and let it go. It's ok to be sad, you just ended a relationship - you ended a part of your life, you need time to work through your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or relative about how you are feeling - it will help to get everything off your test.
2006-06-09 19:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, no you're not over it. if you were, you wouldnt be mad as hell. maybe he put ur self esteem down by dumping you... girl everyone gets dumped. its just a part of life... and then most men, NOT ALL, are dumb.. he probably just didnt like you anymore, he needed a change so he dumped you for a dumb reason.
2006-06-09 19:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. I hated my ex so bad that everytime that I saw him I wanted to hit him with a car for all the things tha the did to me. It's been about 4 years that I can't get over it. Even after that he is gone (died) I still hate his guts.
2006-06-09 19:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did for some time, but it eventually wore off. I like to bicycle some so I would go and peddle as hard and as fast as I could sometimes and that helped some, but eventually it all went away.
I still don't like her, but I'm not mad anymore.
2006-06-09 19:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by driver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same situation like you!!im not like that either before..the truth is ur still not over with him cause ur still mad..and admit it..just let go..i know its hard cuz been there done that but u have to try!!!and its for your own good ull see..
2006-06-09 19:17:27 · answer #11 · answered by asaincutie_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋