I recently lost my daughter due to her umbilical cord having a knot in it. This cut off her blood and oxygen supply causing her death.
2006-06-09 11:52:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
40 WEEKS OLD
2006-06-09 13:50:47 · update #1
I also had a still born baby. It was a boy. He died from internal organ malformation. I was 19.5 weeks along. I understand the agony of losing a child. I won't say I know how you feel, because I'm not you and I don't feel your same feelings, but I can say that I undstand your loss and know how heartbroken you must be. For me, it was terrible. My water broke and he was delivered the next morning. He was so little and we didn't know what had happened. We decided to have him sent for an autopsy. I needed to know what was wrong, if it was him or me. It came back that his liver and lungs didn't form right. His liver wasn't producing the red blood cells he needed until his bone marrow could take over, so he didn't have blood. His lungs had a malformation in the alvioli, and they said that even if he would have made it to term, he wouldn't have been able to breath and wouldn't have made it anyway.
We had tried to have a baby for 4 yrs before this and I thought the world was going to end. It took me a long time to get even sort of over it, and I'm still not totally over it. You never will be. There will always be a hole in your heart for your precious little one. She was sent here for a reason, maybe all she needed was to get her little body.
I can tell you that it does get better. Every day will get a little better. Soon there will be seconds you don't think about her, then minutes, then hours. Some days will be better then others, some worse. There will never be days that go by that you don't think about her at least once, but sometime in the future, it will be easier to remember.
We planted a rose bush in my sons honor in our flower garden. It's called "peace" and I like to think that that is how he is feeling right now. We were unable to bury him, due to the autopsy and how little he was, but a memorial service can help to add closure.
I went to counseling for a long time to try to help me deal with it. It was very helpful to have someone to talk to who was non-judgmentative and was there to just listen. There are support groups out there to help to. Do a search on-line, or talk to your doctor to find one in your area. Having someone who went through something similar can help too. If you would like to contact me, feel free. I'll let you talk and I'll listen and maybe I can help you at least feel a little better. Good luck to you and I'm so sorry!!!!
2006-06-09 13:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by odd duck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My eldest sister when through this, she was on her 9th month. She had to delivery the baby boy and had a choose to give it to science or buried him and she choose to lay him to rest since he was fully developed. I sure your upset but time will heal and you will be able to bare more children. My sister now has three of her own.
2006-06-09 12:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by yoliesline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had dreams that this would happen to my son,,, thank god it didnt,,, but it did happen to my sister kind of ... she was like 8 months prego and found out the baby died and they told her she had to carry the baby full term or it could hurt her...
ur gonna need lost of support and love... look unline for sum classes or ask ur dr ...
sorry for ur loss but it will get better with time
2006-06-09 12:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by xplaygirlx206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry.. this is probably one of my worst nightmares,because i'm 6 months pregnant right now =(
2006-06-09 12:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋