How long does it take to get over a miscarriage??

Question

It's been a month and I still think of how far along I WOULD be...Is it healthy to think this way?

Answer 1

You never really get over a miscarriage, you learn to deal with it, but it's always there. I've had 2 miscarriages and a still birth, so I understand the loss. I don't know what you are feeling and would never say that I do, but I do know that as time goes on, you will think about it less and less.

It's normal to think how far along you would be. You were planning on this baby, you were looking forward to it.

Your due date will be hard, so plan to do something for the baby then: plant a tree, or flower, go for a walk and talk about it with your significant other, cry when you need to cry and don't bottle your emotions away- they will come out eventually and will surface in a bad way. Talk to other people about it. People who have been through the same thing may be able to offer suggestions to help you deal with it. You can email me if you would like to talk. I will listen and can offer at least a shoulder to cry on if you need one.

I can say that I now have 2 girls, and they are fine, but I still never forget what could have been. I'm so sorry for your loss and let me know if there is anything you need!!

Answer 2

I don't know that it is Healthy, but how long would it take you to get over the death of a loved one?? I would expect a longer recovery for what would be your child. This was a real person, no matter what other people might say. I am sorry for your loss, and if you feel that you aren't healing try and talk to someone about it. Get some counseling if you need it.

Answer 3

well for 1 it would depend on u and it's normal to feel this way but don't dwell over it too long other wise you're gonna think the same when you get pregnant again and no it isn't healthy to do that but it will take some time you need to talk to someone about your feelings and you should get some birth control to rest your uterus for about 3 months that way you will lesson the chance of you miscarrying again, but you also need to think that once you rest uterus you and ur husband can try again and say to urself that u will carry it to term if you don't then you won't. I have been told this part.

Answer 4

my first two pregnancies ended in misscarraiges. Yes it is normal to wonder, people would try and offer sympathy but they did not know what I was going through, the good thing is misscarraige is a sign you can concieve, I now have five very heatlhy children. All up I had three miscarraiges, and I took may be three months to get over each one. It also depends on your spirital prospective, I felt spirits of my babies on the outside and I knew and felt in the miscarraiges, they were not inside me. It also depends how far you were pregnant. Best wishes my prayers are with you, I know you will feel ok soon

Answer 5

Yes, that is normal. You will think those things less and less as time goes on. So sorry for your loss. Go to a bookstore and look for books on grieving miscarriages. You will get some relief knowing more info about it. Greiving a loss will be different for everyone. Talk about it with your husband and close friends. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well, It's been a year and a half for me and I still think about it. Not as much, though. What helped take my mind of it was the successful pregnancy that started a few months later and produced a beautiful little boy in February.

My condolences and I hope things turn out the same for you.

Answer 7

As many have said, it depends on you. I miscarried in March. I doubt I will ever forget, but because of the love of friends and family - and my relationship with Jesus Christ - I have been able to heal. I know my child is home and safe. The Lord knows the number of hairs on my head - he also knows my pain and cries with me.
I am now able to honor the child without dwelling on its death or absense. My mother-in-law miscarried nearly 23 years ago and still sometimes mentions that "this would be the year my baby would have..." We will never know why these things happen until we are home with the Lord. Thankfully, I just found out this morning that I am pregnant again. It will not replace the one I lost, but I am excited and joyful nonetheless.

I hope you are able to find peace and healing!
jb

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss.
I think the grieving (yes, you are grieving) process is different for everyone. Some people may take longer than others and that is ok. You need to take care of yourself and allow time to ease the pain in your heart. If you have a good support system, use them and don't feel guilty about it. I hope this helps you toward your recovery.

Answer 9

It really takes time, right now you are going through a lot, your body is right now getting its hormones back in order. It doesn't make it any better, but it will get a tad easier when they finish, but no, you never forget them or stop thinking about them, you may think about them less and less but you never forget them. Like I've never forgotten my Danny, Eliza, Hanna, and Aaron. I will always remember them, they are waiting for me in heaven. I know they are. Friend, do you know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? Have you admitted to Him that you need Him to save you from your sin and that you want to be with Him forever in heaven, where your beloved baby is? And for saving you from hell, will/ do you live your life for Him and Him alone?? If you do/did, then you will see your baby in heaven, if not, if you'd rather be the boss of your life then you will never see or hold your child again. If you have any questions or would like more information on how to become a born again Chistian, go to a local Bible Church. There are people there that want to help you get through your pain and to see you go to heaven as well. God Bless

Answer 10

I lost a baby 23 years ago and i still think about it. You never get over it but it does get easier with time. Also talk talk talk about it. Friends will understand that its helping you and believe me, they wont mind a bit.