I feel like its cheating,and I cant get it out of my mind.Im so pissed at him.
2006-06-09 11:27:58 · 65 answers · asked by ladybug7262 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry to say it but yes. He cheated on you. I feel for you. Good luck with everything!
2006-06-09 11:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by blah9008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 07:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes! Cheating is cheating is cheating, no matter how it's done: video cam, in person/physically, emotionally, cybersex, etc. I have been cheated on numerous times (mostly by my ex husband) so I know how it feels. I would be totally pissed off. I am sorry it had to happen. He has absolutely no respect for you or your marriage.
If I were you, I would talk with him, let him know you know and how you feel about it. I hate to tell you, tho, that once a cheater always a cheater. I learned this the hard way (21 years with a constant cheater--I don't even know how many women/times cause he only told me about 2 of them). I would find out why he disrespected you and your marriage. DON'T let him blame you. HE made the choice to do what he did, NOT you. You didn't force him into it. I know it's hard, but try not to blame yourself and don't listen when others say it's your fault, that you weren't giving him enough, etc. People cheat for a number of reasons, but from a lack of sex at home is just a crock. They could talk with their partners and try to remedy the situation rather than cheat.
People won't usually leave then cheat. They will usually stay in the relationship and cheat.
2006-06-09 11:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts you in anyway, and If YOU think it is cheating YOU out of something, then it is cheating.
Doing cam sex IS voyagerism, a form of sexual pleasure in watching or participating without touching.
If you feel like that when he wants to "get off" and needs someone to watch, and you think that person should be you, then that's cheating too.
2006-06-09 11:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 48 answers in 6 minutes.
If you care to hear the side of the male. No, it may or may not be cheating.
You may be pissed at him because your ego was hurt. It is not only the male who has ego issues.
It is cheating if it is with someone he knows. Having an affair (emotions involved) is cheating. But if it is with someone he hardly knows (no affections involved) it is just lust. Deep inside, it is not usually his intention to dump you for a gal in a sex cam.
Who did he cheat anyway? If it is just lust, he may be cheating himself because he is not having sex with you. You better treat this episode as merely his fulfillilng his lust. Nothing personal. That way, your ego doesn't get hurt. Fulfilling his lust does not mean that the man does not love his wife.
But if he is ready to dump you for another girl, to live with her, that's a different story.
I hope you don't make mountains out of molehills. Too many homes broken already just because of lust. To deal with his lust or libido, take a more objective approach. Share with him. Make love to him. Satisfy him. Unless, of course you have been cheating on him by refusing sexual contact.
2006-06-09 11:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by TJ Zez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's cheating and whats even worst is he did it in your house knowing he could get caught so he wasn't even to concerned about getting caught another red flag. i think you should leave him if he would do that with this girl if she said lets meet he would be there don't bury your head in the sand after hearing all these answer the truth hurts but it will set you free if you do something about it! It will be hard at first but when you have a better man one day that loves you back you won't even remember this creep. Godbless you!
2006-06-09 18:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been the woman on the other end of the cam I would have to say no. He most likely never intended to take it any further and he is still married to you right. IF he was cheating he would have left you. Best wishes
2006-06-09 11:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if this is result of some unfullfilled thoughts which he never felt comfortable in yourr relation.
Second, everyone (guy/gal) has a wild personality somewhere back in mind. It is good to let it ease without involving in any post marital relation.
Even if you feel pissed off, may be you two guys need to talk.
2006-06-09 11:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's considered cheating if he never even met the person he was "cheating" with. You should give him a good talking to, though. Maybe he is deprived? I think this may be a problem resolved only in the bedroom.
2006-06-09 11:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by ineedanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. If you catch your husband having sex with someone else, what else what it be? He is cheating on you. I just answered a question where the man said he was married but slept with other young hot woman het met on line. Men are stupid in this. Apparently you werent giving him what he wanted in bed, and he had to find someone else to give it to him. My guess is he loves you, just not enough to put up witht he fact that you dont give him what he wants in bed. Sorry, but it looks like this relationship is over. Dump him before its too late.
2006-06-09 11:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by efraevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its depends on how each person feels about that behavior. I have been in a similar situation and I considered it to be cheating and ended the relationship. Really I think you've got to decide what you consider acceptable behavior in a relationship. Best of luck to you!
2006-06-13 07:03:37 · answer #11 · answered by crazy_fun44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋