2006-06-09 11:00:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well lets see her father is not in her life and her mom has other problems(she just had a baby who was 2 months early)the family noes and i guess no 1 is worried about it!! there is no father and shes no even out of 8th grade. her mom doesnt cre if she has it or not. thats why im here askin u guyz.i woul really like if u can give wat u think!!! thanxxxxx
2006-06-09 11:24:07 · update #1
please dont judge my cousin and yes it is my bussiness because im tha only 1 there 4 her and our grand mother is a social worker and were just here for some advise please dont give us some smart *** answer pleASEE!!!well lets see her father is not in her life and her mom has other problems(she just had a baby who was 2 months early)the family noes and i guess no 1 is worried about it!! there is no father and shes no even out of 8th grade. her mom doesnt cre if she has it or not. thats why im here askin u guyz.i woul really like if u can give wat u think!!! thanxxxxx
2006-06-09 11:30:23 · update #2
Only your cousin can decide on that.
2006-06-09 11:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG is right! I think in this instance adoption is a better idea for one of the children in this situation, the new baby i mean. your cousin is a child hereself and her brain and thought process is not fully developed at her age to be able to care for a new born.
it isn't just putting a bottle in it's mouth and changing a diaper. the new baby needs a fully grown mother and father that can give it safe stable long term loving home. your cousin may want to keep her baby because all 13 year old girls think about about having a baby, ahhhh, sign! please, she is toooooo young and she should talk to someone, preferable an adult or a preist or social worker who can help her make the right decision. she is too young to make the choices for this new life on her own. she will not want to be home with a colicy baby when all her friends are at the mall having childhood fun. she can give the gift of parenthood to a childless couple and the gift of a secure life to this unfortunate little baby who should not have to suffer for the ignorance of it's child parents. where is your cousins parents?! maybe she can go to a school counselor, they will have the resourses to get her and the unborn child assisstance and possibly an adoption agency. it is a heartbreaking situation for all involved i am sure.
please talk your cousin in to getting help so she doesn't perpetuate the situation and become a 26 year old grandmother when her now unborn child becomes pregnant or impregnates someone when they are thirteen. I do not reccommend the family keeping the child as they obviously were not there enough to prevent this tragedy from occuring.
2006-06-09 11:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by kaylamay64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know kids who have put their babies up for adoption... and they deeply regretted it. If you think the girl is responsible... I'd say keep it. Their will always be the "what if" but its her baby and if she goes through carrying it for nine months she should keep it but don't let her drop out of school. Get her on "home bound" the county has to pay for a certified teacher to come to her home and teach her a few times a week. When the baby and girl get older and the school issue comes up remember that probably some alternative schools in your area (I know of many near me) will let young mothers bring their child to school with them.
Keep the Baby. Good Luck to the mom and you (I can tell you care) Once again, Good Luck!! BTW.. KaylaMay... yeah dont listen to her adoption shouldnt be an option...Your cousin will love the baby and so will you. Best Wishes.
2006-06-12 09:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I wanna say to the ones who say only she can decide..What the hell? She is 13!! Yes I know she decided to have sex but she doesn't know the outcome of raising a child and where the hell is she goin get a job? I have problems with that I think if u as her cousin can help her then yes she should have this baby and keep it but as soon as she is old enough to get a job she should be a momma. I dont think she should be left with a decision to keep it if her own parents aren't goin to be there for her. But she does need a support person and I say u need to be there for her in every way u can Good Luck and best wishes to u and her
2006-06-15 17:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say with your help she should keep the baby.you sound really nice and sound like your mature enouph to help her.No sence of people judging her everyone makes mistakes but she'll learn from this.But if she puts her up for adoption she'll probley never see the baby again and theres no guarantee the child will find a home right awya.Mabey if she can't keep it get an open adoption until your cousin is old enouph and feels like she can take care of the child and she can still see the baby.Good luck
2006-06-09 13:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blimey. Well, if she knows the baby is going to be well cared for and have a happy childhood then I don't see the problem, especially as there are no real problems with family members objecting or anything. Just try and get it through to her that a baby is a BIIIIIG responsibily and a LOT of work! (I have a 3 year old sister, I think I know! :D) Good luck!
2006-06-09 11:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes only your cousin can decide. BUt I would be able to raise a child at that age. Some peopel can and some cant. It depends on the person. My best friend is 15 and pregnant with twins....
Talk with your cousin and if she decides to keep the baby then you should offer to help her out, She is only 13 after all.
2006-06-09 11:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Elmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be "her decision", but can she really take care of her child at 13? I'm going to guess no. She's 13 and can't work anywhere legally (child labor laws say you have to be at least 16 to have a job) so she won't be able to financially take care of her child by herself. She should give it up for adoption unless your entire family wants to help raise the child, meaning financially. I don't see myself supporting my little cousin's baby though if one of them had one. She needs to 1) go to an adoption agency, 2) give up the child and request either open or closed adoption, and then 3) get on birth control.
2006-06-09 11:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really pisses me off when people just say 'put it up for adoption' its her baby, let her make her decisions, and from personal experience, I'd say keep it, because I had a miscarriage and it was the worst thing ever, not knowing what to do, if I would have been a good mom etc, so let her keep HER baby, its HER flesh and blood.
2006-06-09 13:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rawka'D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe foster. The only thing about adoption is that when she want her baby when she is older shes got to fight for it. Maybe a family relative can look after the baby til she is about 18. When she is capable of looking after the child. A 13 year old is not capable of a new born baby.omg, i dnt believe she is only 13.
Ur a great cuzin to be concern.
God bless..
2006-06-09 11:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on her...... how is she going to care for the baby? Will she have help from her parents or the baby's father? She needs to ask herself if she is ready to give up her childhood to care for a child. If the baby will have a better life with parents that have the money to care for a child, i would say she should give it up... but if she can handle this then she should keep it.
2006-06-09 11:05:44 · answer #11 · answered by busy mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋