why do people fall in love when they know that they are married and they are not looking for love? I do not want to love anyone except my husband and I know that my friend will not leave his wife either. WHY CAN'T I STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM????
2006-06-09 10:34:45 · 7 answers · asked by crazytexasgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's just not your love for this guy that matters. It's four lives that are involved, and more if there are children.
As they say "wake up and smell the coffee."
Are you really prepared to ruin four or more lives, on a feeling, that at the most is fleeting.
You aren't facing reality here, what I think you have is some schoolgirl crush. It's just all a fantasy, so sit down and get real with yourself.
A fantasy can be fun, but not when it means the break up of two families. Also does this other man, feel the same as you do.
Give it up now, you know it's the right thing to do.
2006-06-09 10:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that you are in love with this other man? Or is it the adrenaline talking. Sometimes we mix up the two. Maybe is the newness of this man that fascinates you ...the wonders of the unknown. Never leave your husband...try to remember the reasons you had marry him in the first place...think of the history that you two have created. I wish you had given more info on your marriage....like how long have you been married....do you have children...are you having problems in your marriage to cause you to reach out to this man.
To answer the question you did ask...'how do you stop love?' Well you can't stop love...but make sure it is love and not lust. If you leave you husband for him and he does the same for you...do you think this relationship will last based on how it had started...could you trust him knowing he is a cheater...do you think he would trust you?
Stop feeding your emotions with thoughts of this man. Instead spend some quality time thinking how to get back loving your husband.
Good Luck to you...
ZEN
2006-06-09 17:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Zenqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are infatuated. It is much easier to fantasize about someone that you have never seen except in an idealized fantasy situation. If he is flirting with you, this makes you feel wanted like when you were in high school. Remember that this infatuation will quickly pass and what will remain is 2 ruined marriages, a bunch of kids with only a single parent to take care of them and several lawyers driving new autos paid for by yourself and your infatuated acquaintance.
2006-06-12 16:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and give your head a shake! Avoid seeing that other man ever and put as much energy into your own marriage. You made a promise to your husband when you married him so make an effort everyday to value and respect him and stop being so self absorbed and self gratifying!
2006-06-09 17:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Nikita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking is called fantasy.
That is not bad.
Action is called cheating and you simply have to never put yourself in a situation where you would be tempted.
Just about every woman on here will tell you that it's easy to resist, or they will when they are doggin' out the men.
2006-06-09 17:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be infatuation and not love. You might be spending too much time with this person definitely too much time thinking about him. Get a grip and talk to your husband about your needs. Please do not tell him about your feelings for this other man. Believe me he will not understand.
2006-06-09 19:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce your current spouse marry the loser, hope he is not hung like a hamster
2006-06-09 17:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by james b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋