ok they dont HATE me but i think the fact that i spend so much time with my bf combined with the fact that they dont know me... they never talk to me when we all hang out as a group... and i just try being really friendly but i never have anything "cool" or "right" to say to them and they dont seem to be jumping at the chance to get to know me. anything i can do, or a different way i can act to make them want to get to know me or even just like me?? it sucks because i wanna be a part of the group, i just seem to be like the outcast.
2006-06-09 10:28:51 · 28 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no its not like i have no friends. they are a different group of people i dont know and i would love to get to know. theyre fun and nice. i know i have to wait for them to "warm up" to me, but i need ways to move it along faster....
2006-06-09 10:35:35 · update #1
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2006-06-09 10:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by X P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably jealous right now. It will take time. When they see your are not going anywhere they will get use to you. Just be
yourself. Try coming up with a place you all would enjoy. Maybe get some of your girlfriends to join. As a group they will see you are cool. Not trying to take him away from the gang. Make sure you give him some space to hang out with them without you also. Maybe in front of them say you know, I'll let you guys have some time I will see ya later. Just hang in there.
2006-06-09 17:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by sandra g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. A friends gf is a delicate situation. They can't seem TOO friendly with you because they do not want to seem like they are putting moves on their friends gf. Add to that the fact that they don't know you that well and there is your situation. Just be yourself and dont try to impress them. In time they will warm up to you.
2006-06-09 17:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok seriously, talk to your boyfriend about the issue. Try to find something though him that you and his friends have in common. Also try to give he and his friends some time to to the GUY thing, and then spend time alone with just him...you do not want to be just another one of the guys...it will cause problems in the group if you ever split up...just remember that they are his friends, and a lot of people agree with the motto, " bros before hoes" no offense but do not try to come between them, or it could cause more problems.
2006-06-09 17:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by K9MP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his friends should just be his friends. I'm sure he doesn't hang out with you and all of your girl-friends. Some things just need to be separated so you two can have fun time away from each other. You can still hang out with them sometimes because it sounds like they don't mind including you but try to let your boyfriend spend time alone with his friends.
2006-06-09 17:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by rbrow112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try and be the cool GF. Try setting up a boys night for him and his buddies. I used to do a poker night for my BF every week. They would all get together play poker or whatever else and I would pre-cook all the food and put the beer on ice and disappear before they all showed up.
Most times men just feel like they lost their friend and become resentful.
2006-06-09 17:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Chicago S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend likes you and wants to be with you, then don't try so hard. If you are "you" then either one of two things will happen. They will like you or they won't. I have learned that a person has to be who they are and not someone else because trying to keep up with a lie is very hard work. If your boyfriend is the one for you, he will come to the rescue and tell them to back off and you are here to stay.
2006-06-09 17:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard...I know it's easier said than done, but by trying to always have something "cool," or "smart," to say you're not being you, and the personality your bf loves you for isn't coming out.
2006-06-09 17:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by LiRona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God! Grow up little girl! You sound pathetic and desperate! I hope you learn to be a strong woman and not another brainless twit on some guys arm. Stand up for yourself! Learn something! Get some confidence in yourself!
2006-06-09 17:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, just be yourself and if thats not good enough for them. they arent your real friends. I know how you feel. but you just have to go on with life. maybe meet some new friends and hang with your Bf too. but be yourself. dont try to change who you are just for them. i know you want to, but girl come on, you know you dont always get what you want. YOU dont need them. they just dont know how good you are. I think they ar just mad because your friends with there friend. Im sorry but just move on. and maybe someday they will come your way. And if your desperate talk to them. each of them alone and tell them how you feel. get to know them and let thm get to know you.
2006-06-09 17:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by funforever1995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋