She was a "play sister" of my husband and when I seen her she would give me crazy looks(I thought she did) but one day I just asked her what was her issue with me?She went on to say how much she didnt think I was good enough and we got into a big argument and cussed each other out and said many petty and mean things to each other. SO ealier this year I seen her on myspace and emailed her saying that I wish that what happened b/t us never did and I was sorry. SHe said that she didnt believe me and how much she hates me. I still can't let it go I feel stupid and obsesive. Why is that? I never see the girl she lives like an hour away and my husband doesn't even speak to her anymore.
2006-06-09 10:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by Ali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, that is your problem. You need to just let it go. I think what you did of apologizing was very mature, but obviously she isn't, and now you are stooping to her level again. You've been hurt by her comment, that is why you aren't letting it go, but you need to just move on.
2006-06-09 10:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like the situation is incomplete, you really didn't get want you wanted from the argument. I think it would of been better if you two just fought it out, hehe. Nothing like a good old cat fight, you have unresolved issues, you can't understand why she doesn't like you, and that you aren't good enough for your husband. Well, a lot of the B.S. came from yours truly, he must of been giving her to much information, which should of stayed between you two, so she was ignorant and took the info. that he gave her and assumed the type of person you are. That is why I believe what goes on between a couple stay between that couple. I don't spread and tell my business, well, unless it is good stuff. My friends and family think my man is the best thing walking. I don't share all the other bull with them, I do have one friend and my sister in who I tell some of my problems to, but that is after I have solved them. So this issue with the play sister is, you didn't get a chance to defend yourself the way you wanted. Don't bother apologizing to her don't waste your energy, it is water under the bridge, you will have to take this one a lost. I know the feeling, next time you know what to do, right? Oh, and she hates you because she has some serious problems with herself, the B**** is mental. Good luck, and much love.
2006-06-09 10:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell your girlfriends to stop talking to your man? Do you talk to this same girlfriend about your relationship problems? Could he have been trying to find out how to improve your relationship by getting hints from your friend? Assuming that he is sincere, he told you that he chose you, because out of all the people in the world that he could be with he wants to be with you. He was telling you that he placed you on a pedestal and your response is that it doesn't mean anything to you. So your boyfriend acknowledged that you girlfriend possessed traits that he found attractive, but was NEVER going to pursue her because he was in a committed relationship with you? You obviously don't trust him since you go through his text messages, a behavior that is just a bit controlling. From your statement, I don't believe that there is anything he could do to win your trust back, because you have not presented any clear evidence that he is cheating on you. If you don't feel like you can trust him then let him go, because all you are going to do is make yourself and him miserable. But don't be surprised that as soon as you drop him one of your girlfiends pick him up.
2016-03-26 23:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty. You feel that you crossed a line and want to apologize about it. Hey people make mistakes. We have all gotten into fights that we wish we could have taken back. You attempted to apologize to her and mend ways but she doesn't want to take it and that makes you feel more guilty about what you did. I say don't worry about you did the mature thing and made an apology and attempt to mend fences and she's not taking it.
I get the feeling she has some feelings for your husband and is jealous you have him. Hence the reason she was giving you looks. She's feeling upset and angry that your husband choose you (he doesn't talk to her). If I am right about her feelings for your husband nothing you can say or do is going to make her accept your apology. You are in the enemy in her eyes. I have had girls I never met before get snotty with me before because they have the hots for my boyfriend. You did what you could do because you felt guilty about your behavior. If she won't accept your apology that is not your fault. You just have to forget and move on.
2006-06-09 10:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have did the best that you can do by apologizing. I know that it is hard to forget things that happen in your life but just pray about it and let God work it out.
2006-06-09 10:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that were me i would not be able to let it go either,. The reason that you can't let it go is just that you either need to forgive her or you need to have the last say but be the bigger person and try to forget about it
2006-06-09 10:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked her forgiveness. That's all you can do with her. What you can do for you is to forgive her for both times and move on.
2006-06-09 10:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if you never see her and your husband doesn't talk to her what's your problem? leave her alone, pretend she doesn't exist. get on with your life.
2006-06-09 10:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your dumb and she is stupid..i am sorry but i hate darama queens.
2006-06-09 10:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋