Last night while lying in bed talking about other things, out of no where he changed the subject, to would I be willing to have a 3 some with a (male) friend of his from work? I still have not ansewed his question, all I told him was I don't know. First I thought he was joking but after talking a few he was serious. I wanted to almost say yes to him, because he is the only one I have ever been with. But I don't want him to think I need someone else. I have always wondered what it would be like to be with another guy, but I love my husband and would never cheat on him. Don't get me wrong he makes me very happy, but I feel if he is serious about this it would be my chance to be with another man, and not feel as if its cheating on him. But if I tell him I will, and then he just says see I knew you wanted to be with another man. Basically what if its a trick question, because most guys want a 3 some with a 2nd woman, not a male. So How should I answer this one?
2006-06-09 09:47:00 · 10 answers · asked by MeMyselfandI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And if it's not a trick, do you think he would be ok seeing another man....well how do I wanna say this..... would he be ok seeing another man have sex with me...?
2006-06-09 09:53:33 · update #1
Say yes and then if it turns out he was trying to trick you then say I only said that to see what you would do. Simple as that. If he's going to set you up and play games with you then you can do it right back.
2006-06-09 09:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think you might be opening up a can of worms. Think about the "what if's." What if he then decides he wants to try a 3 some with a 2nd woman. What if he wants sex with the 2nd woman without you being involved? Or, what if you want sex with the outside man without your husband being involved? When the lights are out, the two men might be copping a feel on each other intentionally or not intentionally. So, last but not least, what if the two men want to sex each other without YOU being involved??!!
I think there are other ways to spice up your sex life without taking that route. Oh God, this is making my head hurt!
2006-06-09 17:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by old_betty_boop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's strange, usually a man ask you to do 3 sum with another woman not with a man. Girl be careful with that. Ask some more questions to see what's going through your man's head. In the mean time check out the guy he is talking about that might help you with your answer.
2006-06-09 18:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 100% sure it's not a trick question.
If you want to do it, answer yes. Maybe it will be really exciting for you!!!
Yeah, after your additional details, I think it's not just that he would want to watch you having sex with someone else - and I think he might want it. It's also that maybe he has a fantasy where his behavior is bisexual. If it's ok with you, go for it.
2006-06-09 16:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your husband might be the one wanting to have sex with another man...but he is using you as an excuse to get with this man. i don't think this is a trick question...i think your husband might want to experiment with other men too. he just needs you to say yes so that way he doesn't look gay.
2006-06-09 17:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Praise the Lord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST...Be very sober, and very honest. Tell him EXACTLY what you have just asked us.
Then, move along very carefully with whatever you decide to do. If you chose to do this thing, arrange for a "safe" word that will alert your husband you want to stop, like , say, POPCORN or something.
2006-06-09 16:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by badbilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. well it's all up to you. I would think of bringing another person into my sex life. It's an intimate thing JUST between me and her.
2006-06-09 16:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chewie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him absolutely not. That is not ok, nor are you interested in being with another man.
I'd probably ask him to leave and file divorce.
2006-06-09 16:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if thats what you really want i'm willing to do it for you i would do anything for you, but why would he pick a guy maybe he's bi .anyways this is your chance take it.
2006-06-09 17:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Justine G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no r u crazy even to think abt sayin yes to him?instead make him realize wht hes talkin abt if he really means it
2006-06-09 16:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by cravingbrains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋