My boyfriends ex recently moved back to town. The last time she came, she tried to kiss him even after he told her he had a girlfriend. He told me they have been friends since kindergarten and thats the only reason they are still friends. The other day I called him and she was over at his house. I got a little upset but my boyfriend says I was being to protective and that I didnt trust him. Its not that i dont trust him, i dont trust her. He tells me she is engaged now but I still worry. Am i wrong??? She calls him all the time, she just shows up at his house, and now since the incident with her at his house she leaves messages on his cell about me and having my hissy fits, and when he says he'll call her back she says no you wont, SHE wont let you. I wanted to be nice when I met her but if she keeps on with this I dont know if I can. Please tell me your opinion on the whole deal.
2006-06-09 09:38:44 · 12 answers · asked by Twinkle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sure you can - kill her with kindness. Let her see in no uncertain terms that you are poised and confident and she cannot get under your skin. That way you win, she loses, and you look like an angel because you've been so, sooooo kind.
It's the best way to absolutely leave them panting in the dust - just hold up your chin and smile the whole time and ask about her fiance.
2006-06-09 09:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm curious how old you are with this situation. Your man certainly doesn't sound manly to me! And what is she doing showing up constantly if she is engaged? Doesn't sound like she's truly committed to her man and it sounds like you are a doormat. If this isn't some 21 year old fiasco, then I'd suggest you lay down ground rules, otherwise without a mutual respect and trust there can't be much future, at least a happy one...
2006-06-09 09:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by crazygirl45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is a bit of difficult. See, he considers her a friend of his, althought u dont trust her. If u try to break them apart, then u ll take the risk of losing him. Also, if u try to talk to her u take the risk again of losing him. If u talk to him, 50-50 chances of losing him. The only way is to trust him and if he turns out to be a "cheater", thats his problem not yours. i dont know why, but women dont usually trust us guys easily.
good luck hope that helped
2006-06-09 09:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by therifleman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend that it bothers you. if he cant let go of something that did not work out you need to move on. you bf should have enough respect knowing pefectly well that if he was in your shoes he would probly be feeling like you r. you dont remain friends with every single friend you have growing up. there must be more you dont know about . no reason for him to not let go.
2006-06-09 09:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really care u should distract the whole time like what eva he likes to do to keep him on u or wit so she doesnt try anything.but from ma opinion jus leave it alone .if u trust ur man to back off from her then its okay .
2006-06-09 09:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on with your life, it doesnt matter if he is now back in the same town or not. just remind yourself why the two of you split to begin with and that you are not going back down that road and you will be fine.
2006-06-09 09:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry step your game
2006-06-09 09:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is...if YOU are his woman, then what is SHE doing over there? Visiting? Yeah...okay...
2006-06-09 09:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Duane's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not care about it.
2006-06-09 09:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by ecleeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it, that's how ex's are
2006-06-09 09:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Muff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋