A co-worker and I have great chemistry, but I want to move to the next step. How do I progress without seeming desperate?
2006-06-09 09:35:48 · 15 answers · asked by nursekate800 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be smart about it.
Make a subtle joke like, 'too bad office romances never work'. and laugh.
See if he says something back. If he's not interested, he'll just say, 'yeah, too bad', and leave it at that.
Just don't flirt openly in front of colleagues. And if he's married, leave him alone.
2006-06-09 09:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk about marriage or anything serious. If a guy hears you talking as though you often think about relationships and marraige, he will think that you are looking for a relationship and marraige. The secret is, focus on work or working out or some other hobby so that looking for a guy doesn't seem like a priority. Then you won't worry about him so much.
Maybe ask him to do something like go to a party or go out with a group or something...then pay attention to him but make sure you have fun. To not be desperate you need to be able to have a good time without him...then he'll see that you're a fun girl to be with. Desperate=Needy, as in a girl who has to have A GUY to be happy. If you fit that mold, you should work on yourself before you worry about this guy.
Most girls like that settle for the first guy that comes along.
2006-06-09 16:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Trav14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't BE desperate.
Realize that all of us have many choices. Both people must have roughly the same desirablity points. Just relax. Ask him to join you for a walk, a movie, dinner, something like that. Then see if the Chemistry is still good as you get to know him. Wanting a relationship and or good sex does not make you desperate, just human.
2006-06-09 16:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting (as opposed to being slutty ;) )is very simple, be confident, be attentive and be nice. You might want to step it up to being a bit cheeky after a while as well.
2006-06-09 16:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by number2301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummm well you already got good start with nurses outfit. just hurt you leg or something let him check it out for you maybe a sweet smile as he looks you over ,, see what his response is,.. or just the old fashion way,, ask him out , outside of work
2006-06-09 16:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and say something. It will save time and cause less embarrassment later.
2006-06-09 16:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with being upfront about it...just not at work. make sure that your company doesn't have a rule about coworkers not dating first.
otherwise...good luck!!
2006-06-09 16:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by dubbledee71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him a few times during the day.
2006-06-09 16:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by TKO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't pretend, actually become happy alone before you begin any romance
that's preferable... and then you have something of value
2006-06-09 16:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by unseen_force_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out for coffee or lunch sometime, or hand him your number and say call me sometime
2006-06-09 16:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋