or do you get hold a grudge and get revenge? God a hate my suck a## family i cant seem to get rid of the ones who are two faced.they are always there because they are family.
2006-06-09 09:27:58 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Nope!!!
2006-06-09 09:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no. Yes you can forgive a person, but never forget what he/she did. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Once betrayed it is difficult to trust the person that did it. That person will (should) have to earn trust again. For me, once betrayed it leaves a scar in the deep recesses of my mind that will never completely heal. I dont know if its a good thing or bad.
As far as whether you should let a person back into your life it depends. For family (blood relatives), yes. For others it depends on several factors. How deep was the betrayal? Do you honestly believe the person is sorry for what was done. Did you get a sincere apology? Is the person a friggin liar? What are the chances of it happening again? Then ask yourself if you are making a big issue out of small potatoes?
I find it harder to forgive a friend than to forgive a family member. I love my brothers and sisters, but a couple of them I will never trust again. Ever! As for friends, I have some that betrayed me. We are on good terms now, but I won't make the same mistake again. Trust me on that.
2006-06-09 09:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know it really sucks when people let you down, and stab you in the back. I guess it depends on what was done, and who did it. It's happened to me too, but you have to pick and choose who's worth forgiving. From what you've said it was a family member. If so, was it something you will get over or something that has really p*ssed you off good? Personally, if it was family, I'd try to forgive, it doesn't mean you'll forget. Good luck.
2006-06-09 09:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a person has betrayed me -I never forgive them or put myself in a vulnerable position to allow them to do it again. I don't care if they're family. In fact that is even worse. It means more of a betrayal. The two faced relatives just want to reel you back in so they can get information on you to gossip about you. Don't allow it. If you feel you must forgive them then do so but keep them at arms reach, be coolly polite but do not take them into your confidence. Once someone has burned you or gossiped about you-they will do it again. People do not 'grow' loyalty for someone they previously disrespected. It's a fact of life.
2006-06-09 09:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been betrayed once, you should forgive them. You should not seek revenge. You should however explain to them how their betrayal made you feel. You should also inform them that once is enough. You will not stand for more betrayal. If you choose to remain in the face of additional betrayal then you are in essence enabling them to treat you that way. Instead of "God, I hate my $#@^& family..." You need to love your family. Communicate with them openly about your feelings. Let them know that you observe their "two-faced" behavior and that you would like to see them improve upon it. If you are in an unsafe environment and have the wherewithall to remove yourself, then do so. Don't complain, just do what is right for you.
2006-06-09 09:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive them, but I don't let them back in my life like nothing happened. They would have to show me that they were truly sorry. Revenge and unforgiveness is not the answer. It only hurts you. The other person is out having a life without thinking about you. You deserve to live a happy life also. Let it go...
2006-06-09 09:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by i_luv_the_irish23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are one angry person. The answer to both questions is no. Get away from people that cause you to feel bad,Family or not. And, Revenge won't make you feel any better in the long run. You need to get some peace in your life. Good Luck.
2006-06-09 09:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says in the bible if your brother sins against you 70x7, you forgive 70x7. Forgiveness is mainly for you, not for the other person. It releases them from having any hold on you.
You can forgive the person, but it is your chose if you want to take them back. Forgiveness is mandatory. Don't hold any grudges because it hurts you more than the other. The battle is not your, but God's.
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 09:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a whole lot of energy to hate. Are these people worth the expenditure of that much effort? Just write them off and walk away. It takes absolutely no effort to pretend someone doesn't exist. Use the spare energy to do something you enjoy. Like spending time with good people whom you like and trust.
Don't keep anyone in your life you can't trust. Family or not.
2006-06-09 09:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they did and if they are worth it. If they mistreat you all the time you need to cut them out of your life family or not.
Your not a door mat and never let anyone make you out to be one.
If someone did something and was truely sorry I could forgive them. But, sometimes you have to forgive but not forget. Forgive them but still don't let them do it to you again...
2006-06-09 09:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your personality. The Jesusesque people can put this stuff behind them. Others can't.
I've had people that I've hated that time has allowed me to forgive, and I have people that if murder was legal wouldn't be alive anymore.
2006-06-09 09:30:42 · answer #11 · answered by warlands 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋