My best friend has been going out with a very very hot girl for about a week now and today she said she liked me i don't want to be friend less but i really like this girl I'm going in crazy :( i don"t know what to do OH MY GOD I can't get her out of my head
2006-06-09 09:24:18 · 25 answers · asked by Brian G. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It will pass. Just wait and see what happens between her and the best friend, then if they split, then ask your friend if he minds if you and the girl hook up, otherwise, she should be off limits.
2006-06-09 09:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by jezebelhellsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is very desirable, but she isn't good for you -if she will tell you she is interested while still seeing your friend (instead do breaking up with him if she isn't interested in him), she is being very selfish, and is probably just messing with you (if she cared about you, she would leave the friend, not hedge her bets or cheat).Long term, you don't want that, even if in the short term you want her.
The bad part is that it will take a while to get over her. The good part is that when you do (and you will – I’ve been there, it sucked, but now I’m so glad its over and I didn’t do anything to be ashamed of) you will still be proud of yourself, still have your friend, and will have some of the skill necessary to have a good relationship with someone who isn’t crazy, selfish or manipulative. There are lots of desirable women who aren’t that dishonest.
Abut again, you just have to get over her, and in the mean time it will suck. I am very sorry for you, and have nothing better to offer than try to be as patient as you can until you are over her.
You should probably tell your friend what she said, too.
If you MUST have her, then give her an ultimatum – she leaves your friend to be with you. If she won’t do that, then she isn’t that in to you – she is just playing and isn’t going to stay with you for very long anyway (better to keep your friend). If she does leave your friend for you, be prepared to lose your friend and probably a few more (who when they hear what you did to that friend, won’t trust you anymore to be their friend).
2006-06-09 16:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by ktzenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, man. I'm 43 now. The place your at, I'm having to assume is like, where I was at once and it drove me NUTS!
There was no-body who could say (Hey- quit it- It's just a phase)
Man... I was IN LOVE so much IT HURT!!
This was for life!!
Go for it... you HAVE to live through this because if you don't, you can't go on to live in a balanced way. Once you succeed in spending time with her, it'll just happen.
OKAY... this is going to be where I attempt to answer your question with the sh*tload of experience I have over you.
Two things you need to know at one time...and they kick each other flat... but you have to try to balance them.
1: Your feelings for her are for real right now so go for it. Enjoy it. Enjoy this time of rapture and intensity.
2: There is a good chance that in 15 years you will look back on her as one of your crushes (which are always way more intense than real love)
My 2 crushes in school gave me my first experiences with love.
Now my wife and daughter... dammn I'd take bullets for them in a heartbeat. It's not a hot burning love...But it has a nice, solid staying power if we work at it.
Good Luck...and Good Living!
2006-06-09 16:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my hands down the pants of my best friend's, and roommate, girlfriend one time. She and I were making out in the bathroom and my best friend was banging on the door asking what was going on in there. I told him that we were talking about his birthday and for him to go away. Later that night I took him outside and asked him to slug me in the head because I felt so guilty. He said he was screwing three other girls besides her so it didn't matter. I then asked if it was OK for her to sleep with me that night and he said no. I guess best friends only share so much. LOL
I told you that to let you know that you should care more about your friend than some woman. You will feel bad about screwing over your friend later.
2006-06-09 16:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three options: 1. You can tell your friend and hope for the best.2. Sneek around but eventually u will be caught. 3. do nothing it depends on which on you choose but every choose will have a consquence. Good luck i been there and it ended badly.
2006-06-09 16:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but does she like you more than your best friend...there is a thin line here because of she only seeing him for a week...tell your friend you think she likes you...if he says if she does go for it...then don't hesitate to make your move...but don't cross the line even a thin one behind your friends back..that's just not cool.
2006-06-09 16:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're getting mixed signals from this girl.
You could ask your best friend what the situation is between him and the girl - then take it from there what your next move is. You caould also ask around about her too.
2006-06-09 16:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by Eiznot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing for sure,she will be fallin for ur friend the follown week u can bet that.thank God u said lik not love else u r in deep tro bro.
thus u still ve time to put ur feelins in check
2006-06-09 16:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situation is difficult. Cause it`s your friend`s girlfriend. If I were you I wouldn`t risk loosing a friend. Especially, that your feeling to his girlfriend might be only temporary crush.
2006-06-09 16:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Joanna L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it lust or love.. ask yourself that question. For love, you will be willing to give up anything, but for lust... everyone can control it; not worth losing a friend over it then.
2006-06-09 16:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋