My ex is getting remarried tomorrow so now there will be two of us in town with the same last name. I didn't bother changing it becuase 1) the kids have the same name 2.) the hassle and 3) I have no ties to my maiden name.
2006-06-09 09:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by cocoanutt 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Ginger-darn! I should have hyphonated! I wonder if it's too late...
2006-06-09 09:10:32 · update #1
I changed my name to maiden-married when he started divorce procedings... it didn't occur to me until I was served paperwork with my name appearing like that in them.
It made sense becuase I still wanted to have my kids name as well as distancing myself from my ex.
I found out that ex did that on purpose to try and force me into a name change.. well.. it worked. =P
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It's NOT to late.... visit the social security website or call them for details. It's the first step to changing it. You will need ID and your divorce decree. http://ssa.gov/gethelp1.htm
2006-06-09 09:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you are talking about exactly. I've been divorced now for 8 yrs and still use my married name. He has been remarried for 4 yrs now. I didn't change it because of my kids. i have all the paper work necessary to change it, I just haven't done it. I will probably change back to my maiden name if i ever get into a relationship where I will remarry. Other wise i'm leavin it just how it is. I don't go by Mrs. I am no a Ms. LOL, however, whenever, I get anything in the mail from him he always makes it a point to put my maiden name down and not my legal name.
The other reason I haven't changed back to my maiden name is because that is not who I am any more. I have a new identy with the name I have now. For me to go back to my maiden name would be like putting on clothes that don't fit anymore, it's not who I am, I'm not comfortable in it, so I don't wear it. Hope this all makes sense.
2006-06-09 16:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married, so I hope you don't take this the wrong way. But if it were me, I'd change back to the maiden name. It's b/c you are no longer married to that man. Would you want your husband's ex-wife to still have the new name you're getting? Children understand more than you think if they are old enough. There are many children out here who have different names from their parents and that does not change who they are or who they will become. Begin a new life for you and your children with a clean slate and your original name. Good luck!
2006-06-09 16:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Karma Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UM personally I disagree with most of the women here my fiance ex wife chose to keep both she stood with her name when they got married but also took his last name. When I go to pick up the kids with him everything I notice that her mail and other important things that I have seen she still has his last name.
I don't see the purpose of still caring his name they have been divorced for over 3 years now. So what if your kids have his last name that ain't got $hit to do with you they are caring the last name of THEIR father you ain't with him no more.
Personally I got 5 brothers and 1 sister and 4 of us got the same name and the other 3 have same name none of us have our mothers name.
so what is the big deal. The hole purpose of taking on your husband (ex) last name it was symbolic to you and him that you where no long individuals but one and when you got a divorce you through that right out the window so you get what I am saying let the name go.
2006-06-09 16:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by a_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the last name for the kids.Nothing wrong with 2 ladies with the same last name. you do have children together. Keep your head up and smile sweetly.
2006-06-09 16:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should.I lve in Puerto Rico and kids
here have both mom and dad's last names.So even if u get divorced the kids will have both names.Do it its better that way.My parents are divorced and im fine with both of my last names.
2006-06-09 16:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jeny B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should change your last name. there's nothing wrong with having a different last name than your kids. they're still going to be your kids, there's still a birth certificate
2006-06-09 16:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by 27stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's depend on you but if you want don't remember him again then it's better to choose another short one. have nice time
2006-06-09 16:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need, unless you really don't want to be associated with your ex husband at all. email me at cokezerorulez@yahoo.com
2006-06-09 16:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by cokezerorulez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , if u hate him, or u can keep if u love him.
2006-06-09 16:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋