My kids don't want to get their dad a gift. So, it's up to me. What should I get him that's around $25 or less?
2006-06-09 08:41:53 · 18 answers · asked by cocoanutt 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
Kids are 3,9,14. Their dad can be a jerk a lot of the time so the oldest doesnt care at all about Father's Day, the middle will at the last minute, and the youngest is too young to think of something on her own.
2006-06-09 09:09:21 · update #1
This is their father. It's up to you to teach the children how to respect him and love him. Even if you don't anymore. We can all be a jerk sometimes----but they learn from you how to treat their father.
Get pictures of the kids, when they were small, babies, and growing up, have the kids write down 5 nice things they remember about when their father was home and put them in a scrapbook. Make a video tape of the kids acting silly, or each one of them on tape telling their dad the happy times they remember. Yes, this will be a struggle. From the sound of the eldest boy, he obviously has been influenced by yours and your husband's negative feelings from the divorce. From the description in your post, your son is grieving the loss of his father, as if his father died. Maybe this will be a chance for your son to be able to show his love for his father without him having to feel as if he is betraying you BECAUSE he loves his father.
You may not have consciously conveyed this type of response, but in a divorce situation, children feel as if they are betraying both parents if they still love the parent who is no longer a part of the family picture.
The scrapbook and videotape will make their father a part of the family picture again. Making this scrapbook and video will allow the children to love their father---without negative comments from you, please---and it will also allow their father to feel as if he is still allowed in their lives. Great father's day present!
2006-06-09 12:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate what you are doing for your ex. I too get my ex gifts for special holidays/events and he does for me as well.
Not sure what he is interested in, however must guys enjoy gift cards from a local sports store (Cabela's, Bass Pro, Academy, etc), hardware store (Lowe's, Home Depot, etc.), or you can get him something that he can use while he is with the kids. Movie tickets? Gift certificate to an amusement park or something like Putt Putt.
Good luck and hat's off to you!
2006-06-09 15:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for my ex my 17 year old is getting him made by ole mom of course all of his basketball team pictures from grade 5th to his now junior year I am making 8by 10's for him and putting them in frames dont cost much and doing it my self how about a card and let the kids sign it and a picture of the kids enclosed or how about a gift certificate to a nice resturent and let the kids say they are taking him to dinner. How old are you kids anyway I would talk to them about how important it is to keep their daddy part of their lives divorce is so hard on our kids and for what ever reason they are not wanting to get him anything have a talk with them my kids were 5 and 10 when we divorced believe me it is hard but I never down their daddy and I always take up for their daddy if somethings said we get along great casue of the kids so please try to get them more involved in their daddys life casue they will regret it one day.
2006-06-09 15:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by IMSOINLOVEWITHYOU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. Your kids don't want to pick out a gift or they don't want to give him anything?
If they don't want to give him a gift then why are you going out of your way. I mean, IF that is the case, maybe he should know how the kids feel.
2006-06-09 15:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your kids don't want to even get him anything should you really get something at all??
Well if you are going to get him something I'd go with maybe some candy or chocolates and cards: one from you and one from the kids. That shouldn't cost to much and he won't no how much you spent either.
2006-06-09 15:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Got_a_question? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably have their reasons for not wanting to get him a gift. Ask them their reasons, and forget about the person who said your kids are mean...........If you really feel obligated, grab something that says this is from me, not the kids!
2006-06-09 15:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Wendi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make the kids do it if they don't want to.......obviously they have their reasons for not wanting to give him a gift.....I applaud you for wanting to honor him on Father's Day.......
it might be good for him to know how the kids feel about him, but if you feel inclined to ad his ego a card and gift certificate to a sports store or restaurant would suffice
2006-06-09 15:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by McRach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift certificate with a nice card from the kiddies would be good.
2006-06-09 15:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him a blank card for fathers day or buy him a pack of tee shirts. How old are the kids?
2006-06-09 16:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by boogie baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not get him a gift certificate...they usually lay around and expire. Why not flowers???? Men rarely get flowers, and it would certainly be memorable. But, why are your kids not into this??? You have some repair work to do, or this will go from bad to worse. Good luck
2006-06-09 15:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋