my hubby left me for her, and now hes back with me, and now she is claiming shes pregnant, should i stay with him?, or should i be supportive? she says he cant come see the child if hes married to him, but when he divorces, he can, it doesnt make any sense, is she lying to us, so she can get a rise out of us?
2006-06-09 08:32:40 · 17 answers · asked by ~*Jenny*~ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
how can i be calm about this?
2006-06-09 08:35:43 · update #1
she wont even show proof to him, that she is pregnant
2006-06-09 08:36:07 · update #2
she says she doesnt want anything from him, but she got a pi, to see what she can get from him
2006-06-09 08:37:38 · update #3
if you are devoted to your marriage and your husband stick with it. After the baby is born do a paternity test. Then..depending on the outcome, worry about it then.
2006-06-09 08:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell if she is lying about A/ being pregnant or B/ if she is, is the baby his. She could just be trying to manipulate him to get him to go back w/her. I would stick by him, see if she really is pregnant. then if she still thinks the child is his, get paternity test.
If you want to try to stay with him, get counselling and try to work on forgiving him. Some people do, some ppl split up. Depends on what you want, and how hard you are willing to work for it.
If the baby is his, she can not keep him from seeing the child. since she is threatening to (and that is manipulative) sounds like she might just be playing him. I hope she is just trying to be conniving so for your sake.
good luck.
2006-06-09 08:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mary K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter what happens ...he can see his child when he wants to.
She has no say in that matter...that's up to the courts.
But no matter what, you need to decide if you want to deal with this...if he left me for her...I would have never taken him back in the first place...but now you may have to play mommy to his bastard child with this manipulative hoe? And if there really is a child that is his...she and it will be part of your lives FOREVER...No thank you.
First things first.
Do you want to deal with this drama? If So...
Find out if she's really pregnant.
Get a paternity test. Even if it has to be court mandated.
Take her hoe *** to court for custody (at least partial) for the kid....
If you do get custody of the kid...file for child support from her, just to teach her a lesson.
See what she has to say about it then. She may change her tune real quick if she realizes that you're calling her bluff...she may not even be pregnant and is just trying to get him back.
2006-06-09 08:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she doesn't want you two to be happy. What I would do is to file a restraining order against her until she has the baby(if there is one), then ask for a paternity test. If she still says that he is the father, says no to the test, and doesnt want child support then something is pretty fishy. Just keep your husband away from her and her away from your house.
2006-06-09 08:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive of your husband until you find out for sure if this is his child. Ask your husband to file for a paternity test and beat her to the punch. Sounds like she's not pregnant and trying to cause problems for the two of you because her feelings are hurt now. I think she is just trying to get a reaction out of the both of you.
2006-06-09 08:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by lovely lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she can't do that he has rights as a father to see the child if there is one so you need a paternity test and then will possibly have to go to court for visitation papers but no judge will say he can't see the kid and as for you saying with him that is only if you can handle whats ahead of you
2006-06-09 08:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Smile4Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you hearing this from her? or is this what he is telling you? men will and do say whatever they need to get themselves out of a situation, he could be saying this so you will be ok with him seeing her and then he gets to have his cake and eat it too.
he left you for her and you took him back...why? dont you think you deserve a faithful man? if he cheeted on you once do you honestly think he wont do it again? if this child is his she will always be in his life one way or another, can you live like that? knowing that he will be spending time with her? going to school functions, and birthday parties?
i think this man needs to be on his own, let him get his own place, and get his life together without pressure from either of you...then you will see where you stand.
pregnancy is not something you can hide so i dont know how or why she would its not soap opera
think about what you want and what you feel you deserve
2006-06-10 12:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by what2do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really tell you what to do in the matter of "LOVE", asking advice is just a matter of process, we all know what we have to and will do. I know it is a little bit easier on the mind to get another opinion but I have learnt in the past that what is good for the goose is not good for the gander. You know your partner. I know sometimes they do things that shock the heck out of us but assess the situation seriously before you make a decision.
2006-06-09 08:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by desdemonia2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a lawyer. If your husband is willing to pay for a paternity test to prove he's the father and sue for joint custody, then the woman shouldn't be able to keep him from seeing his child.
2006-06-09 08:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did u take him back if u knew they were sleeping 2gether? Let his cheating *** go, because u don't want to get caught up in the middle of it all. GET OUT! Or it's only going to be long, hard , lonely days for u.
2006-06-09 09:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋