My wife is German and she wants to go back to Germany to live with the 2 kids of ours. I want to stay in the United States, Don't get me wrong I loved Germany and wouldn't mind living there. However, I'm trying to start an online business up and that was my dream goal after I get out of the Army. I've always been making my decisions on what she wants. Once again I'm faced with the same predicament. It's not easy not seeing your kids anymore everyday compared to seeing them maybe 2 times a year the most. I talked to her about staying in the States and she wants to go back home. I don't want her to do something she doesn't want to do. However, I'm not going to either. I have serious career goals in my life I'm trying to pursue. It might seem selfish of me, but she always got her way in our marriage. I was that unselfish. Stay with my wife and kids 5 yrs. of marriage and grow old together and live day2day or goals of establishing myself and progressing in life, have fun working and $$!
2006-06-09 08:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by Shawn J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not to be insulting but online is www (world wide web). Take your dream to Germany, it will work there just as good as the States. I think men can adapt to their surroundings more than a woman. Consider your wifes wishes, it will work out.
2006-06-09 08:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by CLUELOW 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to give up so easy? German women tend to be more attached to the family, unlike here where leaving the nest is not a big deal.
Germany is a beautiful country and your kids will enjoy a happy, healthy life there. You, as a spouse of a german citizen, can use the AWESOME german benefits, such as free healthcare, kindergeld and great unemplyment benefits. You can file for unemployment in Germany and make big EUROS while pursuing your dream of e-commerce. You don't have to be here to start a e-biz.
If I could go back to Germany I would in a heartbeat, your wife would be happy and so will you. Give it a chance, don't you sacrifice your family and KIDS for a bussiness that you don't even have yet.
Good luck
PS/ Your wife cannot take the kids out of the USA without your consent. You have the same rights as she does as the children. If you consent to her leaving with the kids, don't complain later.
2006-06-09 15:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had no idea that the internet didn't work in Germany! Seriously, can't you do online business from anywhere? Are you saying that if you go to Germany, your only career option is to be a beggar on the street corner? Use your imagination a little!
More importantly: You REALLY can't decide between love and work??? Then what in the HELL did you get married for? Or, start a family, for that matter?? With whom are you planning to enjoy all this $$ that you seem to think is only available to you if your IP is located in the U.S.?
You two really need counseling! I suspect that there are other issues under the surface here.
2006-06-09 15:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! What a decision to make!! The mother and woman in me says not to abandon your kids no matter what and go with your wife but my honest opinion is that you should explain to your wife that you intend on staying in the US and you want your kids to stay with you. If she needs to go home then she can go without ALL of you. What about a long vacation to Germany--have you suggested it? If you are the providor in the family then she should respect your plans since they are in the best interest of the family. Tell her you will retire there and live out your later years with her in her country but you want to make a good life for her and the kids first. Good Luck!
2006-06-09 15:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by hms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online business means you can be anywhere on the planet. You have two children by this woman? Then you have a responsibility. Your post is perfectly clear. You don't want a "wife"; you don't want children; you want to be running free as soon as you get you discharge papers. So tell her and stop hiding behind this business thing. Sign over your paternity rights so these children can, maybe at some point, be adopted by a man who wants to be a man, a husband, and father.
Then grow up!
2006-06-09 17:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife and marriage should come first and above anythine. I am not trying to have you not follow your dreams. Wht i am saying is make sure your priorities are straight and in order. I feel that you should live half year here in the states and six months in Germany.
2006-06-09 16:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your dream baby!!! It will only hurt for a little while.......just because we love someone doesn't mean we will spend the rest of our lives with them...Besides, you never know what will happen down the road. Hate to sound so cliche' But, if it's meant to be...it will ,
2006-06-09 15:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say go with your dreams or you may never know what will become of it or you, as with your wife if she loves you she will understand either way, i know i would! good luck
2006-06-09 15:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋