I mean to the point where if you think you caught your mate looking at an attractive person walking down the road you can feel your blood boil? Is it just a sign of poor self esteem?
2006-06-09 07:54:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Is it a sign of of poor self-esteem? Possibly. But it's definitely a problem you must address because it's not healthy for either of you. Your mate cannot go through life with blinders on.
You may have any one of a number of issue including:
- Poor Self Image
- Fear of Abandonment
- Control Issues
- Fear of Intimacy
- Fear of Rejection...
The long and short of it is that there's a difference between looking and learing. If he sees and admires another, this isn't necessarily disrespectful of you. In fact, my mate and I point out men and women to each other that we feel are attractive. It actually helps our intimacy and relationship because we know we're committed to each other, so there's no fear or jealousy.
Good luck, but find a constructive way to deal with this or your relationship could be in trouble.
2006-06-09 08:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by chairman_of_the_bored_04 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some jealousy is normal in a relationship, people are territorial. EXTREME jealousy however is a sign of insecurity and not POOR self esteem but some self esteem issues. The way to overcome your jealously, find out the source of it. Have you been cheating on before, is your mate giving you signs or reasons to be insanely jealous? When you find out the source you will be able to resolve your jealousy issues.
2006-06-09 15:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me ,i have felt that before many times....but when i look back he gave me many reasons to feel that way. everybody says it low self esteem. no... i have had boyfriends that i would say "wow she is a knock out " and it wouldn't faze me....but one guy for the likes of what ever always seem to be looking the other way. everything and everyone else seemed to catch his attention even as far as me talking to him and he turning back to look even more. if your blood boils he has some how giving you a reason to do that. i know you don't feel you can trust him....thats one reason it boils.... if you hang aroung him any longer you will start to test yourself...you will began to dought your own looks. that not low self esteem....thats self wonder...wonder what it would be like being alone or with someone else that you can trust and don't need to worry about it. i am sure it not only the attractive ones you get the blood boiling over. wait until he starts looking at the less attractive ones then you'll blow your top....
2006-06-09 15:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that when I was with my kids dad. And my sister is going through that now in her relationship. I will give you my advice. I think maybe there is a trust issue involved besides just a jealousy issue. I also think you really need to seek help girl. Things can get worse. One day (if you have not already) you may start hitting you man or become very possesive of him. This is not fair for you or him to suffer. My problem was due to very poor self esteem, no trust with my man, and mental illness. I think you need to talk to your doctor and get some help before this gets more out of control. My sister is still this way but will not seek help. She hits her man when he even happens to look in the same direction that a girl is in or if he watches tv and a cute girl is on a commercial she will get mad and start a fight. Believe me it will only get worse.Things can get better but you need help honey. good luck!! remember its ok to be jealous a little. thats normal but to become enraged is a sign of a deeper issue here.
2006-06-09 15:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by *♥* Igotorbs*♥* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, actually, its not a sign of poor self esteem but I think you kinda like your mate... Feel great abt it.... cheers for further life
2006-06-09 15:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Glue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its atually natural, if you love the person your with then staywith that person, thank of it as you can look but you can't touch.
write back and tell me how that is.
2006-06-09 15:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by playboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to and at times it still crops up, but i ignore it. i realized if i got mad at my guy for looking at other women then i couldn't look at other guys, and boy are there some good looking guys to look at. and if he wanted them instead of me he was trading down.
2006-06-09 15:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by bonny b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋