My parents yell at me alot for no reason.And I havealot of problams and I tell my Best Friend and she is my Cousins wife she's 38.And she's my Best Friend in the whole world I tell her everything.Theirs nothing wrong with her.But my parents don't like me talking or hanging out with her what do I need to do??Please help me.
2006-06-09 07:40:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's so awsome to talk to.She knows what i'm going through.She's been through it.And we have alot in common
2006-06-09 07:48:17 · update #1
In most of the answers people have said I don't know how old you are.Well im 15 years old.
2006-06-09 08:23:27 · update #2
I know it's not easy to do especially if they yell a lot, but try talking to them! Tell them that their constant yelling hurts you a lot and that you need the help of your best friend to feel good!
I hope you'll be able to deal with this problem!
good Luck.
2006-06-09 08:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by fabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours is not a new story , it happens to all children and their parents once they reach the teenage years, I was a teenager once myself! Take a look at the rest of my answer and try to see this deal in the long time to come in your future. My method of getting along with the parental pressure works every time. They are happy and proud, and you are not harrassed, get more stuff you want, and in the later years when you have your own teenage children you will be able to handle it better!
Your folks are probably upset by how much time you spend with her and not doing what you should be doing to help out at home, and by the fact you are probably really secretive about yourself, and not letting them into your life by talking freely about what you think and feel. Or maybe they are just being what parents always are preceived by children to be. Critical, judgemental, and always quick to point of what you have done wrong and never see what you have done right.
Either way it goes if you don't want to cause a problem between your cousins family and your own you better back off for a while and let things settle down. Apparently they are not happy about it and they do control your life right now! The sooner you accept that and just try your best not to rock you parents boat the better off you will be.
Do what you are told to do, do the best you can, and basically baffle them with this kind of bullsh*t and they will hold you up as a shining star and then you will be grown and on your own and go talk to your cousins wife all you want to!
Ta DA problem solved.
2006-06-09 08:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just guessing, but maybe since your cousin's wife is your cousin's "wife" maybe your parents don't want her sharing information that is "too worldly" for your ears.
Case in point, my favorite uncle would advise me about guys way before there was an interest and told me if I was unsure he'd let me know their intentions. I never took him up on the offer, but finding out much later that everyone in the family abhorred him for being a "flaming . . ." I think you get the gist. I hate putting people down. Anyway, there may be more to your cousin's wife than you may be aware of.
I'm not saying that she runs a pedophile ring or is starting a gay follies in your household, but your family, as misguided as they can sometimes be, have your best interests at heart. Heed the warning.
There have also been some amazing stories on Jerry Springer, where family members have been consoled by other family members and come on Jerry's show confessing their love and want to face off with their husband that they're leaving them. :~)
Just food for thought.
2006-06-09 08:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and yes is wrong thtat perants yell at u for no reason ask them nicely to go and see a counselour about this person 38????dont u think that is something wrong with her that want s to hang out with someone your age(honestly u didnt say your age but you live with ur parents I am assuming you are a teen) neeed to watch out no cause she went through stuff like u will know what to do ad tell u. be care ful hang out with gals your age and live life is only one....
2006-06-09 07:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are the ones that need help. If you cant talk to them continue talking with your best friend. Also find other people to talk with. Church is a wonderful place to find friends to talk with. Are your parents abusive in anyway to you??? If so help right away.
2006-06-09 07:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by deb0269 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be issues with the cousin that you just dont know about... besides no parents like thier child telling thier family business to another adult outside of the inner family circle...they are just intimidated by what might be tellling her and what she may be telling you in return. It isnt a great feeling to have another adult giving your child advice...especially if it is someone whos values and morals are notthe same as yours
2006-06-09 07:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's cool that u ahve her to help u and stuff.Theres a woman at my church whose a missionary who lives in Mexico that comes here to Maryland every month and she is someone I love to hangout with and stuff just like u and your cousin wife.My mom is fine with it because some things are easyer to talk about with another woman whos older.Tell your parents how much she means to u and show them this question u've posted and they'll see how much u care about her and how close u r to her!
2006-06-09 11:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents dont like her because they feel like you are going to her with problems that you should go to with them. You should talk to your best friend and have her talk to your parents (with you there) about why you feel you cannot talk to them. Let your parents know you would love to talk to them but because they yell at you all of the time you feel you have to go elsewhere for adult support and advice.
2006-06-09 07:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, assuming this adult in your life is leading you in the right direction-- you need to tell your parents that you see her as your confidant and someone you can trust no matter what.
I just hope that she isnt a bad influence and thats the reason they dont want her around you.
2006-06-09 08:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she isn't a good influence, parents are looking out for you.
but you need to talk to someone and parents aren't always easy to do that with. just make sure you don't get yourself in any kind of trouble. she may be over stepping her boundaries.
2006-06-09 07:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋