He's curretnly in Afghanistan, and I haven't had sex since he left. Now, I'm thinking I don't want to do it ever again. He's my first and I just want to end it with him sexually, unless we become married. What do you guys think?
2006-06-09 07:24:37 · 9 answers · asked by Please ease my pain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't want to have sex unless I'm married, but since I'm not I'm thinking of becoming a nun.
2006-06-09 07:29:14 · update #1
You need to make up your mind if you want to be a nun or not. If you feel really strong about becoming a nun, then tell him. If not, tell him your not having any sexually relations with him until you two are married. If he doesn't like it, then he doesn't really love you and you don't need him anyway.
2006-06-09 07:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Xena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait till your situation normalizes - right now you guys are not actually having a relationship together - it is long distance and that may have a major affect on your feelings - make a list of reasons why you want to be a nun and why you want to be with this man and why you dont want to be a nun and then put them away for a few days - then go back to them and read them and see how you feel reading these comments back to yourself. hope this helps.
2006-06-09 07:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Q Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u dont really want to be a nun. if u were sure about ur decision u would have told him. its really gonna put unecessary pressure on the 2 of u if u tell him "if we dont get married, im becoming a nun".
so my advice is figure out if u really want to become a nun but don't base it on "only if u dont get married". if u dont want to have sex until marriage talk to him about it tell him your feelings about this sudden change of mind... maybe he'll understand.
2006-06-09 07:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by kraze_lil_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you need to say something!! if he comes back from there and is planning on getting some and your a nun....not to be mean but expect the worsted OK.
2006-06-09 07:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by ☼♥Manda♥☼ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want sex, come 2 me.. but don't become a nun.
2006-06-09 07:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by cool_gal_1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shoulndt become a nun
2006-06-09 07:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Marlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, yes- no guy wants to find out his GF isn't interested in sex, plus, he's over there thinking of you.... he needs to know, just hope he takes it well and understands
2006-06-09 07:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. This will end your relationship and it is only fair to tell him.
2006-06-09 07:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should
2006-06-09 07:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by kayla c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋