I've been sick the past few days and he's done NOTHING to take care of me... On top of that, he asked me for a "desparate favor" today to go pick up his kids at school and watch them for a few hours because of an "important matter" at work....
I WANT TO MAKE HIM FEEL BAD WHEN HE COMES TO GET THE KIDS....
WHAT'S A SURE WAY TO DO THIS????
2006-06-09 07:11:33 · 22 answers · asked by Sienna Baker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why are you with this guy when he's got such a busy life that he can't take care of you?? do him, you and his kids a favor. instead of trying to seed hurt feelings and guilt, go find a man that has the time, energy and love for you that you need!
i'd be annoyed too if i was in your position! but making him feel bad won't change the situation, and as long as he lives this life he has, you aren't going to be #1, period.
2006-06-09 07:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't, he obviously doesnt care or he wouldnt have acted that way in the first place so how would you go about making someone that doesn't care about something feel bad about it? however what you could do is stick up for yourself and say no they are your kids and i'm sick and i'm not doing it. if you allow him to walk all over you then you earn what you get, or don't get. so many women do this to themselves in the name of being 'nice' but they need to realize that guys don't sit there thinking oh that was so nice of her, they think that dumb b*tch i can get her to do anything and then have a nice laugh at your expense. when he comes to get the kids you tell him it will NEVER happen again, that things are about to change dramatically, tell him you get what you give, give him a big kiss so he gets your sickness and when he starts whining about how bad he feels tell him to quit whining you dont want to hear it and oh by the way i picked up your kids for you so get your butt up and watch them, then go shopping!
2006-06-09 14:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he picks the kids up, smile sweetly and say"You'll probably need to take them to the doctor. They drank out of my cup." Then close your door and DO NOT do any more favors, desperate or otherwise, for him.
You really deserve better sweetie.
2006-06-09 14:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by angelita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if he was going to feel bad he already would be.I don't believe YOU can MAKE him feel bad for anything.Feelings come from within an individual person.If he doesn't regret what he's doing than there's no way he'll feel bad about it and from the sound of it the only way he'll feel bad about something is if it isn't beneficial to himself.
2006-06-09 14:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by bspalm123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything is fine. He will know you arent being straight with him and it will drive him crazy. And once he has stewed for about a day talk to him and tell him that he hurt your feelings because of what he did. Tell him your not mad it just hurt. Trust me if he cares about you this will make him feel terrible. Its manipulation and I am a master manipulater and it works everytime.
2006-06-09 14:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's time to let him go. Revenge hurts the person doing the revenge more than the person who is getting hurt. Spend your time and energy getting better, and taking care of yourself. Dump the kids on his exwife.
2006-06-09 14:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he strats to talk to oyu dont respond just nod or shake your head yes or no and then for the finally when he goes to give you a kiss after the kids are in the car turn your head or close the door
will work like a charm
2006-06-09 14:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by AlOnEiNtHeRaIn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything infront of the kids... it makes the kids chose the good parent and then the bad parent. I'd just be like talking on the phone with one of my friends when he pulls up and just be like the sperm- donar is here.... and just make fun of him infront of him. He'll just walk away and then it'll get to him later.
2006-06-09 14:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by lucki_charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to tell him what you feel and well if you want to make him feel srry for u then pretend to get even sicker tell him you don't know what happened when you left the house you started to feel worse.
2006-06-09 14:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him u don't lik the way he's been treating u. U wouldn't like it if he did tat 2 u. Would U?
2006-06-09 15:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋