My boyfriend beat me...?

Question

Yesterday my fiance came home and we started arguin. I told him to leave and he wouldn't. I pushed him into the front door and he hit his head. He lost it and started slapping and punching me. I punched him back and kneed his stomach but it didn't even phase him. He kept slapping me and he got a hold of my neck against the wall and punched me. He threw me on the couch, got on to pof me and kept slapping me and punching me and choking me. I gave up and told him to keep hitting me. That's when he stopped.

He took my phone away and didn't let me leave the apartment. I told my family and I'm staying with them right now. What would be good revenge? Am I overreacting? Should I stay with him for our daughter's sake (4 months old)?

Answer 1

It's harder to say than to do, but the truth is that you need to walk away from this relationship for good. I was 19 when I had my first child and was in a abusive relationship, for all the wrong reasons. And because I was sooooooooooooo in love with him and I had his baby I thought just maybe things would change. Only thing you can change is YOURSELF.

On top of the physical abuse, came mental abuse just to keep me trapped in the relationship, I began to feel helpless as if I was pretty enough, or intelligent, my self-esteem was shot. I started to except every apology, and making accuses for the way he treated me. I didn't deserve it and neither do YOU.

You have your daughter to think about,
Do you want her to be in an enviroment like that?
From a childs perspective it's really scary to see your parents act in that manner.

I suggest you keep walking and don't look back.

Like I said earlier it's easier said than done, especially with a child being the ties between you two.

But I can say one thing if I did it I know anybody can, just take ONE day at a time. Good Luck:)

Answer 2

Ditch the revenge idea, it's not worth it.

I suggest you continue to stay with family for a little while. Having a child involved will make you think that you should stay with him for her sake, though that's not always the best solution.

I don't know all the circumstances behind this but I will say that physical abuse is not something that should be tolerated, though you are at fault as much as he is because you hit back.

I think you and your fiance need to talk about what happened, why it happened and whether or not you both wish to continue the relationship.

You need to decide for the sake of your daughter what is best. Good Luck.

Answer 3

going to the police will only keep him away for a while
anyway im sure he was different when u both started the relationship right? so now that he has ur love & now that he has tied u by a daughter it makes him feel that ur his and he can do anything he wants
where the **** did all his love, beautiful words " i love u"
go, remember. he is ur fiance! so then when u get married ull be just like say a piece chair
im sure ur beautiful and smart to go on ur own ull find a nice guy
when he comes bak with a sorry face "i didnt mean it, forgive...'
if u return to him then u do need a good beating
if ur baby could say something to chair u up then she'll probably say " happy mothers day mommy"
good luck

Answer 4

To my opion be very carefull with situation some husband and wives go thru this as a power stuggle but in a true since short if you a martial expert do not and do not take this abuse what so ever , but I have known some women and some of my step daughters to do it on purpose to make me hit them by calling me a pussy or chicken and to that there a fine line between discipline and assault so that a discression up to the parent and the judge and tough love but in your sence I firmly believe if you did not really really provke him try to gradually break away from him or her in that fact cause it can go both ways cause trying to go to fast may bring them to a ackward situation as to why such speedy retreat when as this leads to domineering and jeaulous and I don't know the person to judge them but if abuse has started it's best to leave while your in piece and in sound mind , now you can break up by saying your studing harder or thinking of chasity for GOD you know and if all fails make sure to record all actions and any DNA of him or her just in case this turns bad and allways tell someone about this even if it's a neighbor if you feel unsure about the trusting him any more and if you really don't trust him or make an incident report to the authorities with all their info play it safe if you love and just do'nt want to let go and remember to allways pray to GOD or JESUS for help which allways the best response REY

Answer 5

Definitely don't get revenge, let it go because you don't want to start a battle with him because it might get ugly. What you do is forget about him and find yourself someone who doesn't hit women. Don't stay with him just because of your daughters sake because you never know when he will turn on you again or possibly your daughter. Never put your daughter in that kind of situation and remember once someone hits you that way it makes it so much easier for them to do it the next time especially when you take them back!

Answer 6

You need to stay away from him. You need to think of your babys safety first. He cannot be getting violent with you. Imagine down the road it can get worse. Some men kill woman by being violent. Take him to court. get a restraining order against him. File a police report hopefully you took pictures of yourselve that way when you go to court that is used as evidence. Make a doctors appointment tell your doctor that way it is documented and kept on record this can be used in court as well. Also keep track of the inccident as well time, place, how long it lasted can be used in court. Hopefully this helps you out.

Answer 7

Hell no. Stay away from him and I wouldn't let him around your daughter either. If he's gonna fly off the handle that easy you don't want to put your daughter in harms way. I would take him to court and have his parental right taken away. Don't do any revenge or he'll do it again. It's never ok for a man to hit a woman. They are way stronger. I hope your ok. I know how it feels but it's very serious. Don't take revenge and honestly if you took him to court and got his visitations taken away that major revenge right there. Good luck! And please please don't go back to him! For you and your daughters safety.

Answer 8

I don't think you should stay together for the sake of your daughter. If this happened now, it WILL happen again and you wouldn't want your daughter growing up in a violent family. It will even affect her relationships when she grows up. It's best to end it before it gets any worse, or transfers to your daughter. Violent men do not change.
If he was drunk, it would be more understandable, but still unexcusable. Certain people get violent when they get drunk, really depends on how drunk they were.
A violent relationship is an unhealthy one. It usually just gets worse.

Answer 9

You do not deserve to be beaten like that at all. You are the mother of his child and he should have more respect for you. Leave him. Leave him. Leave him. he will never stop beating you until you are dead. Leave him before he beats your daughter. Don't dare to imagine that he won't. Don't even dream that it was your fault either or something you did. If you stay you are teaching your daughter that this is OK. You are teaching her to be a victim!
A REAL MAN WOULD NEVER HIT A WOMAN!

Answer 10

FOR U DAUGHTERS SAKE?! y so she can see her daddy hit & slap her mommy!? That will just hurt her....she will end up being violent or seriously depressed. L*E*A*V*E! What a jerk. U & your daughter should not ever be around him if he treats u like that.
o & don't try 2 get revenge. Be the sweet one. Revenge will only make it worse, girl.
have a great day! :-)