My ex Husband is a Severe Alcoholic, nothing seems to help him!!?

Question

My ex husband is 45 years old is a severe Alcoholic, he abandoned my daughter now 16 and myself 6 years ago after, Physical abuse towards me, Physcological to my daughter, lies cheating and all that goes with it, we were left on the street in South America, his Sister still tells me about him, hes been to many Rehabs, Detox Centers only to drink the minute he steps out, She helps him with money to a certain point many times.He lives off other people (strangers) in the street, shelters and still drinks, there is no end to this. He Cons people into giving him money all over the US, obviously never payed child support. I feeel Im getting obsessed with this, and have little time to spare as I must raise my daughter on my own in a Country where salaries are very low.I still to this day receive drunk calls in the middle of the night also. Is there anybody out there who could please tell me what I should do, I feel this obsession will kill me as well, I cant sleep due to this either.

Answer 1

I'd be thankful he's your ex. If he is not paying child support and not seeing his daughter, I'd get an unlisted number. If he wants to contact you, he can go through Friend of the Court, and if he does, he can get put in jail for failure to pay child support. In jail he will get the help he needs to fight his addiction.

Do not worry about him, as the only tie to him any more is your child, and in a few years that too will no longer be your problem.

I agree that you should focus on you and your daughter and pretend that he doesn't even exist.

Answer 2

I was in the exact same place -- a drunken drug addict. It was only when I decided to stop that I finally did and I been through jail, detoxes, and rehabs only to drink & or use drugs the minute I got out. I wish I knew what to tell you to do, but I don't. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am; many died before getting straight. I'd say live for your daughter though and help her find somebody who will treat her right!

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Answer 3

He's your ex-husband and you don't live with him anymore. You shouldn't obsess about him, it's over. Be glad he is out of the lives of you and your daughter. You need the support of other people who have gone through the same thing. Have you tried Al-Anon? It's a support group for friends/family of alcoholics. They can help you learn ways to get your life back and stop letting him control it. p.s. Change your phone number and don't give him the new one!

Answer 4

He is simply that your ex-husband he is no longer your responsibility, If I were you I would change your phone number and not worry about him, he will not recieve help if he is not willing to want help, as many times family has put him in detox centers and then goes back out of drink, sounds like he really did not want the help. He needs to admit to himself he wants and needs help in order for there to be hope for him. But, he's your ex-husband you should not have to worry about him or help to take care of his current problems.

Answer 5

Please don't worry about this problem. He is your ex. If you really want to help him, take all his bottles of alcohol and dump half it it and fill other half with water. Try some sleeping pills or just cry yourself to sleep. Good luck! And also you might want to change your phone # if his calls really bother you.

Answer 6

You have to try to forget about him. I know you love him but he is not your problem. Pray about it and ask god to help him. But there is nothing you can do. My grandfather is a server alcoholic. My grandmother left him after 40 years of marriage and he went down the drain. She new she could not save him from him self and she did not want him to continue to bring her down. Just hope your children learn from his mistakes. But you have to move on don’t allow his issue to destroy your life. You owe it to yourself.