I am getting married next summer.
The problem is I have a real issue with strippers! I don't know if it's because I work with all guys and that was their bonding thing to do on the weekends. Or if it is because a friend of mine almost didn't get married because of some nasty stuff a stripper did to her fiance at a club just before their wedding. Or if it's just because I myself could never do that and I kind of resent the fact that they get easy money.
I'm just afraid my feelings will only get worse! I fear his friends inviting him to bachelor parties or for his own. I trust him that he won't cheat, but he will still have some girls s.h.i.t right up in his face!
A guy friend recommended that I go to one, that it will ease my mind and that it isn't as on tv. Most likely if I go, I would go with my fiance. Do you think this would hurt more than help? I know there may be several times when he will be asked to go. He says he doesn't want to go with me or guys!
2006-06-09 06:58:43 · 24 answers · asked by Jaylyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he doesn't want to go tell him not to go and no if you are uncomfortable with it then it just shouldn't happen. what kind of standard is it setting for your marriage if you are already being asked to tolerate situations that you don't want in your life? i'd just go with its not happening neither one of us are going to a strip club period the end.
2006-06-09 07:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really hate this attitude some chicks have "some nasty stuff a stripper did to her fiance at a club". That stripper did not do anything that jerk off did not allow her to do. Strippers are not forcing any guy to do anything. The guys make it seem that way so they don't look so guilty. Give me a break. Yeah, the stripper rape me every time I go to the club. You're going to trust the stories a bunch of guys tell you, do you really think that is credible.
My wife would much prefer I go to a strip club over a regular bar, because in general strippers don't date clients, and most of them probably hate men anyways. I've been to dozens of clubs, taken my wife with me many times, and never once was I forced to do anything I did not want, nor have I ever been propositioned. It is just crap.
It is all about the tease at the clubs. Some skank clubs will basically employ prostitutes, but he should not be going to those clubs. A decent club is a fun safe play to get some extra attention.
If you do decide to go, which I am in favor of, I recommend that you DO NOT go in with an attitude that you are better than those girls, DO NOT look at them bitchy, DO NOT be cheap, DO tip them, DO be nice to them, DO get a lap dance, DO NOT be grabby. If you follow those rules, you'll have a great time and maybe even make some new fun friends.
2006-06-09 14:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afarid you may find one so beautiful that you'll actually be dumb enough that it'll be love at first sight? Intimidation? What? A strippers' job is only one:
To get ya nice an hard!
It's there JOB to create men's fantasy and to get you off.
You should be honest with your friends and let them worry about them being upset about you not going. If you don't want to go, don't go, BUT.......
...the point of your friends EXPECTING YOU TO GO, is to be a part of a ritual that this is the last time (maybe) that you'll have the freedom to behave like a single person. Being there means your friendship with your buddy's are solidified no matter what your status is.
To some, it may not be a strip joint. Maybe an illeagal gambling house or something edgy. The last crazy thing before settling into a life of responsibility.
Be there you terd. Have fun. Get it over with, then you can throw-up at your home in disgust.
2006-06-09 14:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone and is not that bad. I would suggest that you go with a friend and not your fiance. Don't worry about the strip bar...i would rather have him go to the bar then having his friends get him a stripper. The girls when you get them around man that want to spend money they will do anything for it. On the other hand at the strip bar there's more then one or two girls and they only have a brief moment to perform.
2006-06-09 14:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by dodgergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know this one is hard because you trust your guy, but when you include beer and naked women, the story might change. Also I don't think your man will act the same when you are around versus if it was him with all his friends. If you are that uncomfortable with the fact he goes to strip bars then tell him that you don't want him to go. What I would do is go with him and then tell him that the only time he can go is when you go with him that way you know what's going on. He should understand that and respect that. If not then tell him that you will go to a male strip bar and see what he says.
2006-06-09 14:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go. My wife took me to a strip club on our honeymoon and we had a great time. I think as long as you have an open mind about it and realize alot of those girls treat it as a living you will be okay with him going alone. Now alot of them are in it for drugs and sex and free booze. They are just tricks. Remember there are tricks everywhere. You fiance could work with some of them and you would never know. So if you must then go and see what it is about. My assistant is a regular in a strip club abd loves it. She and her husband hang out in one every weekend. Go try it. Have fun and remember.......it is all about having fun. GOOD LUCK
2006-06-09 14:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by cdslsmn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't press the issues on him. It sounds like he has all he needs in you. Why don't you do a strip tease for him one night! Hopefully his friends planning his party will respect him if he says he doesn't want a stripper, but you can't blame him if they don't. Usually the strippers are more for the groomsmen more than the groom. Have complete fath in your future husband. You never know your brides maids might have a male stripper for you and you won't know. good luck hope this helps
2006-06-09 14:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he doesn't want to go at all, why are you looking for trouble? You seem to have made up this whole thing in your head. Sounds more like you want to see what goes on in a strip club for yourself. It hasn't really got anything to do with your guy.
Are you afraid that you may want to go back?
2006-06-09 14:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by zoote3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had similiar issues to strip bars as you do, until I went. I go with my guy friends all of the time. I am a dancer and can appreciate how hard most stripping actually is. Go and if you dont like it tell whomever you are with you would like to leave.
2006-06-09 14:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not that bad...I used to be a bouncer for strippers and they are not what it looks like on TV...usually the guys are pretty chill
2006-06-09 14:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Big Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes go! My gf and I have while on vacation. what you're feeling is fear and insecurity. Normal when you love someone.
If he falls for a stripper, you wouldn't want to marry him anyway... a good test...
have fun
2006-06-09 14:02:27 · answer #11 · answered by Darren V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋