& its only with a few girls... its not like he's with girls all the time but why does it make me jealous? sometimes i feel like im seeing things that aren't there but i cant help myself. does anyone have any tips on how i can control my jealousy?
2006-06-09 06:53:46 · 22 answers · asked by kraze_lil_me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because you don't have a very trusting relationship with your boyfriend! You have to trust each other completly to be happy. My man & I will sit at some places & he'll look at beautiful women & say wow she's hot & I'll agree with him (no, I'm not bi)...or I'll say wow he's amazing & he'll agree with me. It's all about trust.
2006-06-09 06:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by leecarh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always said that Jealousy is the worst feeling possible.....it eats away at you until you feel like your going to go utterly insane. It makes you do and say things that you normally would not.....you imagine things that are there or blow things out of proportion and then you can't stop thinking about it, your mind races and your anxious...sometimes to the point where you actually feel sick to your stomach. I know this feeling because I had to deal with an ex husband who cheated on me....I won't lie to you...it's a hard emotion to turn off but you have to start by asking yourself if your being paranoid or if there is really a problem....if you think there might be...sit him down and talk to him...let him know how and what your feeling...there's no shame in that, it may allay your fears for a bit...the important thing here is COMMUNICATION.....but if everything is very innocent, then you have to work on YOU....just tell yourself that you can beat this thing....YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR FEELINGS......there is more to you than this feeling called Jealousy.....remind yourself that your strong and you don't want to possibly ruin your relationship with your boyfriend because of an imaginary scenario....Jealousy is very normal...I still feel it rear it's ugly green head all the time in me....but I have gotten so much better controlling it and thinking before I speak......you have to learn to pick your battles hon....a lot of getting over it is just reciting mantras to yourself, you know...like....." I am strong" " I am a good person" "I am beautiful" I know all that sounds a little corny but it's the only way to remind yourself that you can beat this thing!
Good Luck!
2006-06-09 07:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the girl he's talking to. I have the same insecurities with my man. If she's flirtatious and immodest it bothers me. I feel like he'd rather be with someone prettier or more promiscuous. I think its natural. I don't know how to control the jealousy. I think you should talk to your man and let him know you need assurance that you're the ONLY one he wants and loves. Maybe that will make you feel more secure. Also tell him your views and see if he can maybe back off around the girls you get jealous of. If he's a decent guy who truly loves you, he'll understand and respect your wishes.
2006-06-09 07:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by heavendreamer84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you don´t trust him or you don´t feel secure in the relationship. Both of these things are pretty usual early on in a relationship, when you´re just getting to know someone, but if you have these issues later on then there´s something wrong somewhere, even if it´s only with you not being able to trust people.
I´m afraid I don´have much advice on jealousy, whenever I´ve had it I´ve just bitten my tongue and coped with it, maybe paid a bit more attention to how she acted to see if my suspicions were confirmed, but nothing more. You can always try following the guy and trying to prove your suspicions right or wrong once and for all, but he probably won´t be very happy about it if he finds out...
2006-06-09 06:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care who they are, how old they are, how much you keep an eye on them, or how jealous you are. If your mate is intent to wander, there is not one thing you can do about it. So just trust that he doesn't and remember he may talk to other people once in awhile, but he chooses to be with you. Jealousy is flattering for about 5 seconds, then it is annoying.
2006-06-09 06:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by zoote3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is ur boyfriend a big flirt? Sometimes the bf has alot to do with it too...not just you...for one thing..have more self confidence...are you afraid of losing this guy? And if you do...so what? Get another one...its not worth all that aggravation to be feeling jealous of another girl or woman...You have to rise above this and think more of urself....
2006-06-09 06:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think really it is because how other women are these days. They know you two are dating and still they flirt with our boyfriends right in front of us I would actually like to tell you a story of how i handled it once. This kinda pretty girl was serving us drinks at the bar she started to hang and talk to my boyfriend a lot that night so the next round that she brought over I looked right at her and said well that is a really pretty neckleace you are wearing look i told my boyfriend and he said yeah. It took her off guard and the rest of the night she left us alone. It was actually kinda funny. Instead of being a ***** i was acting like a smart *** and caught her off guard and it worked.
2006-06-09 07:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by lovebug1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are insecure and feel like your boyfriend is going to leave you for the girls he talks to. Calm down and trust yourself. Talk to your boyfriend about it and im sure he will give you assurance that you are the one for him. And stick that to your mind every time he talks to another girl.
2006-06-09 07:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some trust issues. Ask yourself when you start feeling jealous, Would my guy really cheat on me? Would he ruin what we have for this girl? Does this girl have intentions toward my guy? and mosat importantly Can I trust him?
2006-06-09 06:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's something you really have to work on. I think that is something you are just born with. You have to try to trust him. Let me tell you no matter how jelous you are if he's going to do something he's going to do it. Your jelousy will not make a difference. It just makes it worse for you
2006-06-09 06:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋