Why is a bisexual man usually considered gay (by straight men)? A bisexual woman is bisexual, not gay, so what's up, guys?
2006-06-09 06:35:36 · 18 answers · asked by Jarna R 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Straight men (or at least the overwhelming stereotype of them) see any non-straight man as "gay" because he has an attraction to other men, and the fact that humans like having only two catergories for everything and no gray area (makes thinking easier). A bisexual woman, however, is a straight man's sexual fantasy, but they still don't understand what it means. A bisexual woman, in reality, is a woman who is attracted to both men and women. A "bi girl" in the (stereotypical) straight man's mind is a woman who will have sex that involves another woman, but will focus on the man as the sex object. The straight man likes to think that he can have 2 women at the same time who will focus on his sexual pleasure but still do things to each other that sexually stimulate the man. It is the most ridiculous double-standard I've ever seen...well, one of them, anyway.
2006-06-09 20:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by shinooniisan 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
That hasn't been my experience. Most of the bisexual men that I've known tend to prefer women, and so have been seen more as straight than either bi- or gay -- even though they are truly bi-sexual.
As for your experience, I can give a reasonable conjecture. Straight men are a lot more wary of having men attracted to them than women are of other women. It's a macho thing, I think, as well as being at least mildly homophobic (and extremely so, in some cases). Men like the thought of two women together; for most straight men, it turns them on (don't ask me why). But two men together is repugnant to them (for the reasons stated above). So when they learn a man in their acquaintance is bi-sexual, they put him in their "gay" category so as to be more aware of his actions and attitudes toward themselves.
2006-06-09 06:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by lothien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay men are called gay. Bisexual men are called bisexual . Gay women are called lesbians. Bisexual women are called bisexual.
2006-06-09 06:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by elijahjaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay,Bisexual what the difference is the same thing.
2006-06-09 06:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexual is if you are into both sexes
Gay are men that are into men ONLY
So don't believe straight men LOL
2006-06-09 06:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by azgraywolf143 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The straight guys are homophobic, way back in school boys would tease each other about being gay so they learn the prejudice. I bet a lot of them experimented though.
2006-06-09 06:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by gary36330 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because homosexual activity is so taboo, especially among straight men, that for a straight man to hear that another man is open to sex/relationship with another man overshadows anything else they know about him. It is the only label they focus on. People have so many aspects to who they are, but once they find out he is not entirely straight, they are fixated on only that fact.
2006-06-09 07:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are no bi-sexual men, if they claim so its because they are on their way to be able to soon admit their homosexuality. Its just tough probably for young men expected to participate in predisposed heterosexual lifestyle knowing and hiding their true identity. I believe its the same with women as well, if the woman truly believes herself to love other women, not just experimental moments.
2006-06-10 08:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by professor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you listen to straight men????
They are 2 different things
2006-06-09 09:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Biteme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way their right a man that haves sex with a man is gay but if he cooses to have sex with women it doesnt change that
2006-06-09 07:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Blair W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋