im very worred how i look at the moment my son is one and i way 11stone
2006-06-09 05:44:11 · 19 answers · asked by chrissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before yall have another kid you two should make sure thats what you want and if you both are ready to have another kid and are you two gonna be together forever there are way to many kids out there that have only one parent and it is hard to raise a kid by yourself so make sure he is gonna stand by you and be there for you kids!
2006-06-09 05:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt let your weight or anything else bother you, when you are considering having a baby. have a baby for the right reasons, and think about whether you could afford it financially, whether you have the time to love and nurture it, and above all, if a baby is what you really want! Your personall happiness is all that matters-If your boyfriend wants a baby, and you are not sure (which you seem to be) then give it time and slow down a bit. There isnt a rush after all!
if you have any doubts about it, then be honest and open with your boyfriend and tell him of your worries. 11 stone is also nothing to worry about-it really depends on your height as to how overweight you are. To me though, personally, 11 stone is not an awful lot of weight and nothing to worry about! Stop putting yourself down and try to be happy with yourself. If you arnt happy with your weight then do something about it-more exercise and better meals-and then perhaps have another baby when you are happier and more secure in yourself. Self acceptance is very important! And im sure your hubby doesnt care about how heavy you are. If he wants to be the father of your child-he obviousley loves you a great deal!
You also mentioned that your son is one year old-so this obviousley explains as to why you may have put weight on-pregnancy is a big strain on your body, so its only natural!! :)
I hope you find happiness, and i wish you luck!
xx
2006-06-09 08:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you having babies with a BF?! Get married or find a new man who is willing to marry you. Dont have more kids until you are in a real commitment (marriage). A BF is not bound by any legal contract meaning he can walk out the door whenever he feels like. Also you dont want him to one day turn around and claim the babies arent his just because he decides he doesnt want kids anymore.
2006-06-09 05:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful that the Rooster doesn't tie you down with chicks and then create more chicks with other hens... Babies are meant for Fathers, mothers, parents, husbands, wives... Not just because a man wants to have another... Get the idea? Is he dedicated in being the provider, partner, father, husband for the rest of your life? If not... Don't let him take advantage of you and find your soul-mate.. God bless!
2006-06-09 06:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Wildeyedsoutherngentleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want bigger age gaps and you'll consider it when your son turns 3. Your body needs a bit of time to recover before you go popping out another one. This would also be a good time to mention marriage, if you want it. Tell him you don't want more kids until you are married (but only ifs its true and not a cop-out).
2006-06-09 05:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to say no if your not ready. Think about what you want not anybody else at this point. Your body needs to rest it's not good to have baby after baby it ruins your body. Let him know your not ready for another one if that's what you want. And also unless your stable financially and with your boyfriend, don't go there because you don't want to struggle.
2006-06-09 06:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend should first properly and legally become husband and wife in marriage before having any kids in the first place. That is just my opinion, but THINK about it! Please consider stepping up your standards. And yes, if you have another child this soon, you'll keep gaining weight and it will be more difficult to lose the weight.
2006-06-09 05:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by ouisy_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should sit down and make sure it is a worth decision.You should if your first child is getting all his basic needs first then try a second.Otherwise you will get pregnant, you will want to try abortion and thus putting an innocent life in jeopardy.
2006-06-09 05:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by rider-of-rohan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No is that plain enough,as he is not the one to be pregnant for 9mths and stay at home and look after the kids ,i would say it's not upto him, stand up for yourself and tell him straight your not ready for another one .
2006-06-09 05:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no if dont want to have a baby again. r u afraid of him, tell him after all u r the one going to carry the baby for 9 months. get real
2006-06-09 05:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by lip4kissin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋