My ex husband is a total control freak and is supposed to pick up my kids for vistation on a tues eve. for a few hours and he refuses to do so even though he know I work late. Needless to say this causes a huge amount of frustration for me. He keeps them friday through sat til 7pm. Any ideas on how I can get him to cooperate. I would like to be able to just not arrive home at 7pm on Sat. and stay out for a couple of hours to get back at him but I'm afraid I'll only get myself in trouble for contempt as 7pm is the time stated for drop off on the divorce.
2006-06-09 05:36:41 · 13 answers · asked by MO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take him back to court and get a stricter agreement. All he is doing is using the kids as a way to be a A*S to you which is wrong. If Tuesdays aren't important to him than I say no day is and get the agreement down to one day he gets them and try to make it Tuesday. Also if you can be held in contempt for not being home at 7pm why can't he be held in contempt for not picking them up? Yes I realize that by saying this it sounds like your using the kids to be a jerk to him but really if you think about it your not you just want a custody agreement that he sticks to and I can't imagine what the kids would think and how they would feel if they knew their dad refused to come get them.
2006-06-09 05:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by suzannet79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one likes a person who doesn't adhere to agreements made in court, especially a judge. Just like you are annoyed about ex not showing up mid week, trying to "spite him" is shameful, since the ones who get caught up and hurt in your games, are the kids.
The marriage "didn't work out"..... move on. The longer you linger in your desires to force someone you are no longer married to, to do what you want, the longer it will take you to progress and thrive in your life. The best "dose" you can give him, is disinterest in his games.
Maintain a positive focus in your life and expose your children to that atmosphere, not the antagonistic games currently being played.
Be the better person. Good Luck.
2006-06-09 12:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abide by the visitation order..... Since you know how he is --- have a babysitter in place for childcare when you work late( a girlfriend of mine told me - she never depends on her ex to abide by the visitation order or the child support agreement - she has a regular sitter for when she works late and a part time job (her ex is a controller - she learned to be the stable one since he always fouls things up) --- do you have family or friends that can help out? if so utilize them.
2006-06-09 13:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya you dont want to not be there at 7, cause if he calls the law and they see you not there, he can keep them with him until a judge see's you. "maybe" I would go back to court and file a contempt on him though since he is breaking his orders for visitions. Good luck, I too have an X an it can be a pain.
2006-06-09 12:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by baseballmommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly,MOST family court judges will not enforce visitation "rights",in other words,there isn't anything legally you can do about this.
My guess would be to make it "worth his while" to pick up the kids.How you do that is up to you,but here's a hint:
It's been said that MOST men think with their heads,and not the one on their shoulder.
2006-06-09 12:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your question already. If you are afraid of "contempt", is your x not afraid? Report him! Those times were established by the courts to be followed.
2006-06-09 12:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by cthbz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU DONT WANT TO NOT BE THERE YOU CAN GET YOURSELF IN TROUBLE, ACT LIKE YOU DONT CARE AND DONT GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY WHEN HE IS AN ***. I AM THINKING HE MY THRIVE OFF BEING AN ASSHOLE TO YOU I KNOW I HAVE AN EX AND I HAVE A CHILD! YOU CAN FILE COMPLAINTS AT THE COURTS FOR HIM NOT TAKING HIS PARENTING TIME.
2006-06-09 12:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by onehottfem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your lawyer and go from there. You need to respect each other in this. If he does not do what is right wait till you go to court and adjust it there!
2006-06-09 12:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take his butt back to court. Have them do an enforcement. That is what I did to my ex.
2006-06-09 13:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by chellebeth75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him back to court and keep a dairy of every time he is late,early,or doesnt show
2006-06-09 15:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by keli2829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋