Im 37 weeks pregnant, the father of this baby left me in December because of a lie i had told him. Nothing big. He didnt talk to me until last month... now we see each other every now and then. He said that he wanted to work things out and see if he can trust me, it lasted for 2 weeks and he broke it off with me. He said that "its still there" (the lie i told him months ago) he willnever forget that and that he will never believe a word i say. Its breaking my heart so much , hes my life. I know what i did was wrong and i know what i lost and never again would i doanything to lose him again. BUT he doesnt believe me... what can i do?? Please Help me!! Thank you!
2006-06-09 05:17:40 · 8 answers · asked by ncbutterfly_20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not up to you to make up his mind.. If he doesn't trust you and is not willing to forgive and give you a second chance, you need to concentrate on taking care of you and your child...We all make mistakes and he may eventually see he made a mistake by not giving you a second chance. when you find someone that really cares enough about you, they will not use a guilt trip to hide their main objectives..However you want to be open and honest with the person you love so don't lie......Build a relationship on trust, honesty, and with God! God bless!
2006-06-09 05:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Wildeyedsoutherngentleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When trust is lost, its very hard to bring it back. Its like one of the foundations of a building collapsed. Regretting at the end, thats what always happens after we commit a mistake. I guess, it depends on the gravity of what you did (which you failed to mention). Give him time and space. Show him, thru actions not just words, that you've suffered and regrets for what you did. Make other people whose aware of the "lie" tell him the truth. It is more believable if it comes from other people. And if in case you win him back, learn from the lessons of your error and never repeat it. Good luck! :D
2006-06-09 05:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by cernad06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must have been a doozy of a lie! I hate to say this, but go through the courts to make sure he pays something for that baby regularly. That will ensure that you will at least still have him in your life.
2006-06-09 05:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take a while, he may come around when your baby's born.
Try to leave him alone, I know that's going to be difficult, but TRY.
You can't make him believe you, all you can hope is that he may Mellow over time & when the baby's born YOU may get another chance.
Aim for that & let him stew.
2006-06-09 05:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting someones back is a hard thing to do. but, in your case you should tell him you know you're wrong. sit down for a conversation on a nice day and a nice mood. then, tell him. if he loves you he'll understand and forgive you and he'll believe you...
2006-06-09 05:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Honey Gee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a hard thing to get back...going thru that now............if he really loves you he will overlook it all and be with you......
2006-06-09 05:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want him back? he doesn't love you!
2006-06-09 05:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by *bored* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP FRIGGIN' LYING!!!!
2006-06-09 05:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Stanley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋