how can i make my kids to tell truth always?

Answer 1

you can't

Answer 2

The real trick to teaching a child not to lie, is by mastering the discipline you will need to cope with the truths they are telling you. All children lie. No exceptions to this rule. 80% lie because the parent generally can not deal with the fact that their child could be capable of doing some of the things that a child would confess to. If, we, as parents except the fact our children, regardless of how great a job we have done raising them, can still get into trouble, at times, that we thought would never happen. If, we, parents could always hear everything our children try to tell us, instead of going into selective hearing, we could actually prevent some of the problems they are going to get into. Even the most healthy child/parent relationships, still deal with a certain amount of lies, from both sides. When my kids were younger, we had a deal, that if they told us the truth, that after our initial reaction, we would "then" deal civilly, with them and the circumstance. Once again, it worked 1/2 the time, 1/4 their fault and 1/4 our fault. Truths are hard to tell, and sometimes even harder to hear.

Answer 3

Well, the first step is to set the right example by refusing to lie yourself. When you teach your kids that truthfulness is a quality you firmly believe in, and that the entire family is expected to be honest and truthful, they usually understand that it much better and take it more seriously. My kids have been taught from the time they were very little that once you are dishonest with someone, it makes it impossible for them to trust you. On the rare occasion that they were caught in a fib, we had a long talk about it, and they knew the lie would have consequences. They know now that honesty is a valuable part of their character, and it's really nice to know that when my kids tell me something, it's the truth. In turn, it's nice for them to know that we believe what they tell us.

Answer 4

Truth serium!!!

But really you can not get 100% truth 100% of the time but you can try.

Encourage and open honest relationship by being that way yourself in ALL that you do. Encourage them and let them know that the truth will allow them to be free from guilt feelings and will be easier than lies that need to be covered and re-covered. Once a lie is discovered the effects and re-procussions are far worse than telling the truth and being honest with you AND themselves.
Lieing gets one no where in life but the truth gets us everywhere!

Answer 5

Don't make them feel afraid to tell you the truth. They will lie to avoid getting in trouble or to get you mad. So let them know you won't get mad. You can still punish them, but reward them in some small way for telling you the truth. Something like a hug and a thank you for being honest, how admirable it is but they still have to accept that there will be consequences.

Answer 6

I do not agree with punish them if they don't. I have two very honest children, ages 18 and 12. I have always told them to tell me the truth. I promise them that they will not be in serious trouble, that we will work out the problem and find answers together if, they tell the truth. If it is something bad they did, we together talk about all of the people it effected and I ask them how would they feel if it happened to them? That teaches them Empathy. We together discuss a plan of discipline. I tell them them to tell the truth because a lie has too many bad sides, example, one lie leads to another etc. The main thing is, for you as a mother to NOT let your emotions take over when they do tell the truth. They are looking "at" you for reassurance that it was the correct thing to do.

Quick story...I was almost asleep one night and my child age 8 at the time had a friend spend the night. I heard a big crash, and I pretended to be asleep to see how the boys would handle it. My son's friend said "hurry, sweep up the glass vase and we'll throw it out before your mom wakes up." My son replied with, "no, we'll clean it up and wake mom to tell her we accidentally broke her vase." This freaked out my son's friend and when asked why he was so frighteded, he said that he would get "Beat" by his parents for breaking it, so he would hide it and lie. My son explained that she would find out anyway and in our house my mom wants the truth and she works out a discipline program with us, and "it's not that bad." I just have to remember to always keep MY emotions in check when he tells me the truth.

Answer 7

Encourage honesty in your children. Tell them how sad someone must be to have lost what your child has found, whether it’s money or a toy. A lost dollar bill may not seem like much, but honesty in the little things instills a desire to be honest in bigger ways. I’m amazed and humbled at how my daughter will go out of her way to give a dropped penny or quarter to a customer ahead of us in line. As with other issues, I always try to let her see me return the incorrect excess change, stamps, or other items I may be given.

If you know your child is lying, don’t accuse. Instead, tell him how special the truth is and how proud you are when he is truthful. Then wait for his conscience to go to work.

Answer 8

Kids are always known to stretch the truth out. It is always good to encourage good behavior. Reward them for telling the truth. If they should lie- punish them by time out or taking away one of their most prized possessions. Also, do not be disappointed in your children. Tell them that you are very upset for their actions. In time, they will realize that lying is not the way to go.

Answer 9

Don't freak out when they tell you things that you would normally freak out about. If they feel like they'll get in trouble for telling you the truth, they won't ever tell you. Be understanding and helpful, and always be honest with them as well.

Answer 10

Good luck!

What happens with children is that they learn to live in a world of fantasy from early in life. Who do you think introduced them to Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny?

And, in school, they read books about animals, about stuff. No wonder they can lie to you if they can. It is all part of being a child, of living a life free of fears. Just wait until they become teenagers... no comments.

But, be positive. Take their little lies as creativity. Enjoy your children's fantasies while you can. They grow up so fast!

Answer 11

Teach them the 10 Commandments.