My son is 16 and very intelligent. He has scored in the top 5% of kids his age nationally on standardized testing. Yet he has a D for the fourth quarter in Geometry and holds a C for the year as of now. He also has A's in English, Chemistry, and a B in History. I have been telling him since half way through this marking period to pull up that grade and go for extra help. He doesn't always do his homework or study. He didn't go for any help even though the teacher offered. I told him at that time if he ended the quarter with a D he would be grounded for the first 3 weeks of summer.(working around the house, not going out) Even though he got good grades in his other classes and still will end the year with a C in geometry should he be grounded, if so for how long?
2006-06-09 04:51:37 · 14 answers · asked by skippingsunday 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
xmoshpartsx- maybe you should let my son tutor you in spelling. Definitely! He would be ever so happy to do that since he has an A in english and everyone knows you don't get such good grades without being able to spell.
2006-06-09 06:17:39 · update #1
nah, don't ground him. i think it isn't even the case that he lacks doing his homework, or that he studies too less.
i had the same problem in school, intelligent student, on every course i had high grades. only biology i could never get into my head. i doesn't interest me at all how flowers reproduce, my brain simply refused to keep that information.
and i saw it a lot around me, intelligent people who are very good at a lot of things, always have a few things that they can't get their mind to do, no matter how much they even want to.
in my country holland, we grade from 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest. on almost all my classes i scored 8 or 9 or 10. Biology was always a 3 or even lower. No matter how hard i tried.
At the age of 16, i actually think it's a very good thing that your son chooses the things that obviously interest him the most. He's also old enough to realise that he won't really need geometry in the rest of his life. If he even increased his grades to a C, i think that's probably the maximum for something that obviously doesn't interest him at all. The smartest people are only lazy at things that they really have no affiliation with.
(i'm sorry, i am aware of the fact that ur son will probably read this as well, and he will use it as an arguement against you trying to push him to study harder...but hey, then you shouldn't have asked me:P )
Love and Sprite, Mark.
2006-06-10 03:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Thinx 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
How good are you at things you hate doing?
You said he'd get grounded if he ended the year with a D. He got a C. You shouldn't ground him for that. He probably did the best he could. Halfway through the year, it would take a LOT to bring a low D up to anything better than a C. Especially if he hates the subject. He can't be good at everything. Cut him some slack. The rest of his grades are good, he's a smart kid. He's not in trouble, he's not in jail, he hasn't gotten anyone pregnant, he's got a bunch of A's.
There had to be a class you hated in school and didn't do as well in as your others. Remember????
Telling him that he needs to spend two hours twice a week working on math wouldn't be a horrible thing to do, but grounding him seems a bit harsh.
2006-06-09 05:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want him to learn then you need to set the example. This doesn't mean cruel to your room grounded. I would incorporate some of that geometry into the grounding. But if he has ended the quarter with a C is that not better than a D? Maybe you should cut the grounding if that is the case. 2 weeks is sufficient if he did pull the grade up some.
2006-06-09 05:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Miranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should, but not that long. He worked hard to score good, no great on the test, and you are proud of that. In class it might be harder, with distractions and life and that each teacher is different. Give him 2 weeks or 1 and a half weeks.
2006-06-09 04:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him that if he got a D, there would be 3 weeks of grounding. Stick to it! He was advised of the consequences, and he chose not to follow through. If you don't ground him as you said you would, then you're not following through. It's wonderful that he's smart, but he's got to understand that there are consequences for his actions, and the big bad world isn't going to cut him any slack for being a clever person.
2006-06-09 04:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by witchrhizu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should be grounded. for how long is something you can talk to him and your husband about after the end of the school year. just remember when you give an inch they take a mile. set high standards for your children because there is alot of competition in the world today.
2006-06-10 08:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say stick to your guns your the parent if you told him it was grounded for 3 week then it should be grounded for 3 weeks how Else is he going to learn responsibility if not through you
2006-06-09 04:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ground you for being an idiot. Just because he's not good in math, doesn't mean that he's not applying himself. Math isn't for everyone.
2006-06-09 04:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
what happens if he gets a's and his moral conduct is unbecoming like he toilet papers peoples homes
hell say but mummy i got all a's
see what i mean
encourage good behavior dont punish lack of academic performance
2006-06-10 01:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, a c in geometry is nothing in the big picture. maybe he just doesn't get it and that's fine.
2006-06-09 05:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋