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Question

Well I found out that my dad left me the day I was born and didn't want to meet me and moved to New york, and that the guy my mom is married to is my step dad. And in July 1st im going to New York to see my best friend Emily. I would like to meet my dad but "How do I ask my mom?" please help

Answer 1

well it would really be hard if your mom is not open to telling u infos about ur real dad.but try to have a heart to heart talk.tell her that ur at the right age and it is your right to know where to find the missing piece of your puzzle,your life.

but be ready for the consequences that might happen when u are about to meet your dad.you might be hurt to hear the truth from him or hurt if u see him with other family....


goog luck!!! ^___^

Answer 2

Sigh. Ok, the, as you say "guy your mom is married to".....if he was around since you were a toddler, guess what, He is YOUR DAD. The guy that is in New York, he's just a sperm donor. GOT IT! Oh, and if he's had such a great change of heart, where the hell was he all the rest of the time. He wasn;t there to hear your first words / to see you learn to crawl or walk, and he never had the thrill of changing a single stinking diaper of yours. So what makes you think he's earned the right to be even consider YOUR DAD?!?

Answer 3

I think you should just tell your Mom that you are curious about the man who 'fathered' you, and while in NY you would like to see if you can meet up with him. After all biologically you have his genes and it would be nice to know health wise what the whole family is like...do they have cancer running rampant, do they have diabetes, all these kinds of things you should know for health reasons. Also what about half brothers and sisters, you might have a whole family out there that would like to meet you, or not. Good Luck, I wish you the best.

Answer 4

just tell your mother that u want 2 meet your real father and that she should have been told you that your dad live in New York. If u really want 2 meet yo dad it really shouldn't matter what yo mama say, because every child has a right to meet their natural father.

Answer 5

Sometimes when we focus on things out of the past, we kinda lose perspective for our future. Also to find out about your father at this late stage in your life has opened up a whole new can of worms. I suggest dear, that for now have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. When life throws us a curve ball, try taking a neutral stance and accept this new information, feel the pain of it and savor the happiness.
The finding out part so late in your years, I question whether or not you were meant to find out at this time, or did your mother tell you. If your mother did tell you, I would question her further to find out why your father left you.
Sweetie, regardless of what happened in the past, the present moment is where you are now! When we allow past problems and fears of the future to dominate our present time, so much so that we end up anxious, frustrated, depressed, and feeling hopeless.
Another thing deary, are you able at this time to handle rejection. Sometimes when we jump into a new situation, ( unprepared), the situation may resent the intrusion at this time, if you know what I mean.
Take time and talk to your mom about this and with her help, maybe something will work out for you. God Bless and keep your chin up .

Answer 6

So, do you go by your real father's last name or your step father's? If you know your real father's last name and if it's not very common then just search yellowpages.com and you should find him (if he's listed).

As long as asking your mom goes, I don't think ur mom would tell you where he lives b/c the chances are ur mom hates ur real father and chances are she might not even know where he lives in new-york.

So, good luck finding your dad.

Answer 7

Ask your mom. if ya can. She's not stoppin you. Have you seen that movie with Amanda Bynes in it. She has never meet her dad, she found a pic of him and then found him. He enjoyed his daughter. Don't give up hope. If I were you i would try and find him. Success comes and never give up what ya want to succeed. Life isn't over. try to find him and if your mom doesn't want you too, she's really not stopping you from finding your dad. Good luck!

Answer 8

I guess just ask her and tell her how you feel...I honestly don't know. I am afraid the same thing is going to happen with my granddaughter. We have had no contact with him since she has been born. She is now 3 years old. Please let me know how all of this turns out. I wish you the very best.

MODIFY: I just read some of the other answers. Some people gave you some really good ideas. Please think this over before you do anything. Sometimes reunions do not turn out the way we think they are going to....

Answer 9

Your "dad" sounds like the man who you grew up with. Any male can father a child. Why would you want to meet someone who didn't or doesn't want to meet you? Has he made contact with you before now? If not, forget him.

Answer 10

Just tell her that you know its a tough subject but you feel strongly and want to meet him ... but be prepared that he may not want to meet you... some guys just cant handle parenthood... that why God made step dads ... They can fill in for loser dads who cant face their responsibilities. Also a "DAD" is not the sperm donor he is the one who raised you that's your "real" dad.