2006-06-09 04:21:50 · 19 answers · asked by hunny18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't tell him if you're sure he won't find out. I say this for him rather than you because it will cause him great hurt if he finds out! Don't forget about it either if you care for your b/f. You're feeling guilty now so if you remember this feeling you won't cheat again in a hurry!!!
2006-06-09 04:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did it take 2 years to feel guilty about this? Were you cheating for 2 years and recently ended it? Or did you block it out for 2 years and something brought it back to your memory? Either way, it sounds like you are sorry it happened. My suggestion is Don't tell him now, it will kill the trust. Start the relationship over and give him a royal treatment. Make the best of it now.
2006-06-09 04:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject. We are all fallible, since nobody’s perfect. What I would ask your self is this:
How secure is your relationship (Are things going well or are things on shaky ground)?
Do you have the type of relationship where you can talk about such things openly (is he open-minded)?
Why did you cheat on him (this could signal a major problem in your relationship)?
Do you feel that he would break-up w/ you if you tell him?
The reason why asked these questions, is so you can asses where you are at in your relationship. Usually, when one partner cheats, it signifies a much greater problem in the relationships. Or, is it you M.O. to cheat? If you are having problems in your relationship, it may be a good idea to tell him. Maybe certain needs aren't getting met, which you are essential. If you do decide to tell him, and he decides to leave, it may nit have meant to be. On the other hand, it might give your relationship the boost it needs. Good luck!
2006-06-09 04:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 2 years is a long time and I think if you cared enough you would be honest with your bf. Tell him that you had cheated on him and move on with your life. Its not the end of the world. Many fishes in the sea out there!!
2006-06-09 04:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by mjblic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont discover excuses for what he's doing. in case you cheated earlier doesnt recommend he has to do a similar. If he loves you he may attempt to make issues artwork. He wont be with the 17yr female, she will have the capacity to get drained and are available across a guy her age. Now why are you in a motel and in no way him? kick his *** out! i imagine you need to divorce him if he did that for 2yrs, I dont imagine you want to be with someone like that. once a cheater consistently a cheater!
2016-11-14 09:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling him will only complicate things. Let him think he is the only one instead of giving him the bad news. You need to make up your mind either you want him or not. Giving out samples behind his back is not the right way to build a lasting relationship. If he does not finish the job let him know there is more work to do.
2006-06-09 04:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not tell because it will hurt that person and you may lose something great but that doesn't mean that it is right. People do make mistakes and you have to learn from them. So don't keep making that same mistake and instead love the person even more.
2006-06-09 04:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by alhemi18@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him.
it may be the end of things but if you cared so much for him why did you do it?
he has a right to know and do you really want this on your concious?
it's your decision to make but i mean if you can cheat after two years, what if you end up married, could you cheat then too?......he has a right to know and it'll be much better/easier for him to forgive you if you tell him yourself instrad of him finding out some other way (because he might you know)
for all you know he could read this for goodness sakes!!!
clearly if you put it out for the world to see some part of you wants him to see.
2006-06-09 04:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is wrong that you cheated, but it is not wrong if you dont tell him. it depends on how much you like the guy or not. if you really like the guy and you want to stay with him, then by all means take the secret to the grave with you because if you tell him and he does stay with you then there will always be that distrusting barrier between you both. you cant have a relationship built on paranoia of distrust. if you choose not to tell him then promise yourself that you are through cheating. honestly, i would not want my g/f to tell me the truth.
2006-06-09 04:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by unspecial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a right time and place for everything.
If you tell him, it would spark a fight.
If you will not tell him, your guilt remains and your conscience is not clean.
Try to deliberate the thing you should do and not do.
Next time dont cheat...
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2006-06-09 04:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by inQuery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋