A mom of a 2 1/2 month old baby girl, work all day. But my in-law take care of the baby, ipay them monthly. The thing is in the evening time i'm home and at certain hour my baby get fussy, when i pick her up, rock her, kiss, talk to her but she will not stop.
As soon as my in-law rock her to sleep she stop. How can i get her to not be attach to my in-law and how can i make her not fussy.
2006-06-09 04:21:37 · 12 answers · asked by *Cutie* 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-06-09 04:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to find work that can coincide with you being a new mommy. You need to be with your baby more often. It looks like your baby is bonding to someone else other than you. You need to be her comfort zone. Not your in-law. I know, I know, easier said than done with the way today's lives run, but at least try for a bakery job or something where you will work EARLY in the morning and get off work before noon so you can spend the day with you baby.
2006-06-09 11:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I hate when In Laws have that power. You must know that dinner time is typically the most fussy time and really the only way to get them non fussy is to go back to a routine that they are very familiar with. Just develop a routine that she's familiar with and she'll be good with you too.
2006-06-09 11:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are jealous of your inlaws. Can you really blame the baby?? Think about it--you are gone 8 or more hours a day and only see your baby a few hours a day. Your inlaws care and watch over the baby 8 or more hours a day...its only common sense that they are more intune with the baby and are better able to recognise its needs and soothe the baby.
I think that your jealousy of your inlaws is clouding your judgement of what is best for your child. Since you cant be there--someone else has to be...why wouldnt you want your child to learn to love and depend on family and be comforted.
You want your child to want you and only you...your ego sounds a little overblown.
In the end, if you want your child to respond to you then you need to spend more time with your child and learn how to sense their unspoken needs and what your child likes.
2006-06-09 12:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, I think you'd be doing a disservice to your child to make her "not be attached to your in-law". Thank God your in-law is the daycare provider and keeping your child out of stranger day care. Be grateful your child is receiving love, no matter where it is from. All you can do is spend as much of your off-time with your child, holding her, talking to her and bonding. It will come naturally. I am a working mother and my mom watched my child and my child is completely dedicated to me. I live and breathe for my child and even though I have to work, that bond is strong.
2006-06-09 11:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is spending more time with your inlaw than with you, so she is veiwing your inlaw as her soother, not you.
i'm sure it breaks your heart, but she will come around, i promise.
just be sure to have lots of cuddle time with her and if you are doing things aroudn the house, then put her in one of those snugli packs on your front, so she's close to you and you can still do some chores around the house, like cook dinner:)
this way she is getting maximum close time with you.
eventually, she will see you as a soother, it will just take some time.
the same thing happened with my dog and my husband. he is a marine and was on deployment for a while, so when he got home my puppy was happy to see him, but he relied on me for all of his walks, food, etc. my husband was just someone to play with in his mind.
i'm pregnant right now and i'm worried about that happening with our son. he'll be only a few months old when my husband goes overseas again....our son may not even know him when he gets back. i can't imagine how hard that will be or how hard it is for you to see someone else so close to your little girl.
just give it time and try to spend as much time as you can with her.
take care.
2006-06-09 11:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not always possible, but you should definitely consider being all day with your baby has he is still very young. Get to know each other - bond. Right now, your baby is bonding with your in-law.
2006-06-09 11:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by chibi_sylphe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just who shes used to. She hasn't been around you much since you started working again. They get used to people who are around them and are soothed by. You just need to make time for her and you when you are home with her. Don't get frustrated. I ended up quitting when my last child started acting that way. She only wanted grandma to hold her and rock her to sleep. If you are not able to quit you need to have alone time with her when you are home from work :)
2006-06-09 11:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlovinaries1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem. It broke my heart. I decided to quit work and stay home with my child.
2006-06-09 11:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by lovebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents just have the touch. They've been there before. Give it time. Your new at it. It will happen for you.
2006-06-09 11:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋