i haven't seen my older brother in 10 years..he got divorced and stopped talking to everyone...I know where he lives and I stop by on occasion..he's never there or dosen't answer..I send cards on holidays and birthdays...no response..He didn't even go to our grandmother's funeral !! what should I do ? Family is all you've got...i don't wanna just forget him..but he seems to have written us all off !
2006-06-09 04:18:48 · 20 answers · asked by DRD 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow, I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. I think that you are doing the right thing keeping in touch with him but I don't understand why he keeps avoiding you. Are you sure nothing has happened to him? Could he be in touch with some one rather than your family? If you could find any one he's still in touch with , you'd have a good chance of finding him. But please don't give up. I don't know how he finds it in himself to avoid seeing you and staying in touch with you. It is very kind, generous and courageous of you to have stayed in touch with him for so long. I don't know what else to say besides I truly and deeply wish you find your brother and he will be grateful for all you've done. Don't be discouraged about finding him. :)
I wish you the best of luck!
P.S." I absolutely agree we the fact that family is all we've got and that we should stick together with our family. Specially siblings who have to, always, stick by each other."
2006-06-09 04:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Katy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't want to talk to anyone, let him be the way he is.
Its his loss if he wants to lose his family. Its not his fault he got a divorce and stuff. He has some problems he needs to solve. if i were you, if you wanna get a hold of your brother so bad, find out some system you wanna go through and see where he lives and get his phone number. The house that you stop by maybe empty or someone else maybe living there and don't kno you. i dunno what to tell you. Just try and never give up, that is all the best you can do.
2006-06-09 11:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep trying. Write him a short letter and ask him if he's ok (maybe he's ashamed because of the divorce), and if he doesnt want to associate with any of the family he should let you know. Also tell him that you are there for him. Give him your email address...
2006-06-09 11:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by microsvc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to come out of the house, then talk with him. Don't let him see you waiting. Send him another note telling him how you really feel. Maybe he is really depressed over the divorce. Your right about family.
2006-06-09 11:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just keep trying to talk to him and maybe you should try to call him and let him know how you feel about him not being part of your life. I know how you feel b/c that is how my brother is and i hope that this helps you a lot b/c i know that when i told my brother how i felt for him not being part of my life he came back into my life and maybe that will happen to you at some point of time
I hope this helps change someone life peace
2006-06-09 11:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by tweetybirdbass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep sending cards, and write in the cards what you wrote here, family is all you've got and you don't want to just forget him and you love him.
2006-06-09 11:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by kimmyisahotbabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know his address I would send him a letter. I'm sure he reads the cards you sent to him. Hes just not responding to them. If you write a letter he will read it and I'm sure he will respond. Tell him what you are feeling. He might just be embarrassed after the divorce :)
2006-06-09 11:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlovinaries1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r trying good.i must appreciate it that u hvnt just forgot. Try to know the reason of why he isnt mixing up? ne bitter reason ? ne bitter arguments which hv left him hurt, if yes then try to slove that. He must be feeling lil awkard by his divorce.This can be reason.U have to give much much efforts to get him back.Hes seems to be stubborn and its diificult to get him.Meet him personally. Grab that time when he leaves his home.try to meet him face to face...that will only work.
2006-06-09 11:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by enlighten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter and explain that you hold nothing against him and that you just want to see him and be with him while you can. It sounds like he is really depressed! Maybe talk to one of his friends about getting him out more?
2006-06-09 11:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by T2Step 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. There must be a reason for this. try to find it out and mend it. ask around town and the neighbors. maybe find out where he works and go there. and try the post office to see if he really still lives there okay? maybe a chance he moved. send him flowers and gifts.
2006-06-09 11:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋