2006-06-09 04:15:34 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Thanks for all the spiritual mubojumbo but you guys didn't answer her question. I also think that you should wait till marriage for all the reasons stated above but that isn't the answer she wants.
The reason it hurt is because the guy didn't know what he was doing and/or he didn't want to wait for you to get warmed up. When your partner puts you first and allows for you to get turned on sex will not hurt. Almost all guys care about one thing, getting off. He wants to please you but that desire will be secondary to his hormonal instincts.
I assume you aren't married and therefore the sex you are having is selfish in nature. Once you are in a truly giving and self-sacrificing relationship (e.g., marriage) you will be more comfortable with your partner and less tense. The pain you felt is caused by a lack of lubrication from not being “turned on” and the muscular tension from not being 100% comfortable with your partner.
Your husband should put you first. He should understand that you need time to warm up before being ready for sex. In a self-sacrificing relationship it will not be a big deal to wait. A self-centered partner could give a rip what you are feeling. If this guy really loved you he would have been able to tell you were in pain and he would have stopped.
Bottom line is that sex is best in marriage because of the emotional, spiritual and physical bond you have with your spouse. I promise sex gets better the longer you do it in marriage
2006-06-09 04:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by t2technology 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is often painful the first few times. Make sure you have plenty of foreplay and try again. Don't listen to these idiots that are telling you that you need to be married. Imagine if the problem is not you but your partner. Imagine that you marry some guy and it turns out that sex with him is ALWAYS this painful. How would you feel about that? This is why you should enjoy sex in the context of a meaningful relationship to make sure that you are sexually compatible with your potential husband BEFORE you get married.
2006-06-09 04:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the person you are doing it with. Always be safe unless you are willing to have a child. But the second time is always less painful! Sometimes men try to take over and be too rough if that happened tell him to "go easy" lol sex isn't supposed to be painful. Just be safe and next time it probably wont hurt.
2006-06-09 04:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are married, you should do it again. It will be less painful after a few more times. Just think about all the risks of extramarital sex. There are physical, emotional, and spiritual risks. Wait until you are married, then do it again and again and again!
2006-06-09 04:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first you will enjoy it and be ready for it. Don't follow the crowd just because of what they do and say, you are a person. If doing what everyone else is doing was so good wouldn't the world be a much better place!
2006-06-09 04:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes-make sure you are with a kind and loving partner who has some patience and doesnt hurry things there will be a slightly different outcome this time-lots of love and keep the peace old hippie
2006-06-09 04:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by bergice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first time always hurts. but if you do it again and then it hurts over and over everytime you do it. Then you got a problem, your not lubeing. If that is the case or not, I would talk to my doctor about it and he/she will help ya out.
2006-06-09 04:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are gonna be jack up for life- hope u used protection poor thing u didnt get an orgasm either did ya? cant fix stupid, told u not to do it in the 1st place> hah hah
2006-06-09 04:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust the first time always hurt but after that it won't hhurt as much
2006-06-09 04:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask that question, then apparently you are to young to be having sex in the first place. sorry but it is the truth.
2006-06-09 04:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by unspecial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋